this is all hypermofetical rite.
say someone posts on a certain sex forum and gets asked to participate in a mmf threesome rite, say this guy (and me) knows lots of really fit slags who are begging for a good old spit roast and he needs a partner in crime to pull it off so to speak, fair enough rite? ...but say this guy says first they need to meet and watch porn together and jack off at the same time so when it comes to the first mmf threesome its not all weird because they'd already be comfortable about seeing each others cawks and stuff and can just get on with it, is that gay?
this is all hyperfetikal h'of course
but two men watching porn together and wanking, that sounds quite gay but its building the foundation to an untold amount of secks with really dirtys secksy girls/women, so would that undo the gayness if it is indeed gay to begin with?