Advice Needed

[Smooch]

RPerry, at least you caught her before you took the big step of moving in together again. Things could of been messy

[Rat Faced]

I beat Rob on age and I aint never cheated either.

If your courting, engaged or married then you should care for the person your with.

If you care about them, then how can you betray them?

If there are problems then they should either be worked out, or the relationship should end...... where is the complicated part of that?

[RPerry]

no.... If you look again, we had been living together, for 5 yrs. This is someone I thought I knew. Yes, I'm glad we never resumed living together, because chances are, I would have married her, then found out later, while the judge was giving out halfs

[Smooch]

Originally posted by Rat Faced@31 October 2003 - 22:08
I beat Rob on age and I aint never cheated either.

If your courting, engaged or married then you should care for the person your with.

If you care about them, then how can you betray them?

If there are problems then they should either be worked out, or the relationship should end...... where is the complicated part of that?

I agree.

It's even worse when kids are involved, i've recently seen it happen to a close friend of mine.

[RPerry]

Originally posted by Rat Faced@31 October 2003 - 19:08
I beat Rob on age and I aint never cheated either.

If your courting, engaged or married then you should care for the person your with.

If you care about them, then how can you betray them?

If there are problems then they should either be worked out, or the relationship should end...... where is the complicated part of that?

RF, we have been M8's for some time now, and I know are personalities are close to the same. Somehow I feel like we both seem old fashoined in a sense, even with the few years of age difference. Somewhere, people have begin to lose the ability to talk to each other. I have always been one to really sit down and want to hear what my partner has to say. Unfortunately, not many seem willing to do that anymore

[the_truth_comes_out]

I have talked to her, she claims that nothing is going on and that they are just “friends” yet I have it on good authority from one of her closer friends that stuff has been going on so I can not really trust her, plus she will just deny it if I confront her about it.

Plus I have spoken to the rest at the party and we all don’t know what to do really. We know that she is cheating on him but we don’t know if we should get involved or if we do how to tell him.

[Rat Faced]

Its not so much "Old Fashioned" Rob, at least for me.


I have never tried an "Open Relationship", doesnt mean i have anything against them. (I dont now if I could handle one mind...but until proven otherwise, i'll stick with an open mind)

However I wont "Cheat" on someone i care for..ie "Betray" a trust placed on me by them, which is implicet in a "Closed" or "Normal" relationship...( at least where I live its normal )

I'd call that more respect for my partner and myself, rather than "Old Fashioned". If I betrayed that Trust, then i wouldnt respect myself on top of hurting my partner. Im not sure if anything i could do would give me that self respect back, immaterial of whether my partner ever forgave me.








Note to Self:

Must get a partner to keep these principles in practice....

[Lamsey]

I'm old fashioned?

I'm only 18

[Rat Faced]

Originally posted by the_truth_comes_out@31 October 2003 - 23:28
I have talked to her, she claims that nothing is going on and that they are just “friends” yet I have it on good authority from one of her closer friends that stuff has been going on so I can not really trust her, plus she will just deny it if I confront her about it.

Plus I have spoken to the rest at the party and we all don’t know what to do really.  We know that she is cheating on him but we don’t know if we should get involved or if we do how to tell him.

Its a "No Win" situation.

If you talk to him, you have a good chance of losing the friendship of her (and also, to a lesser extent, him).

If you dont talk to him, it may blow over and he may never find out. However if he does, and finds out you all knew... he may never trust you all again.





Anyone for a game of "Scruples"?

[RPerry]

bye old fashoined, I meant it seems the art of communicating seems to have diminsihed a bit.