Bi-annual there's too much trading and not enough giving , givng away stuff thread*

[anon]

I'm afraid not. Google didn't help me much either.

[ca_aok]

I'm still waiting for my request to be fulfilled. It's my dream, you know.

[megabyteme]

mjmacky: I think that's a variation of a Chinese proverb.

Do you know by whom?

I found this:

Beat your child once a day. If you don't know why, the child does.
Chinese proverb

[IdolEyes787]

mjmacky: I think that's a variation of a Chinese proverb.

Do you know by whom?

Chew Mee.

I'm still waiting for my request to be fulfilled. It's my dream, you know.

Sorry but I currently have you on ignore so I have no idea what you wrote. although I'm assuming whatever it was it was not very funny.

[megabyteme]

Do you know by whom?

Chew Mee.

You sure it wasn't Lik Suk Dong?

[mjmacky]

Do you know by whom?

Chew Mee.

She more likely quoted, "Swim in the nude every day. If you don't know why, I'm horny"

I found this:

Beat your child once a day. If you don't know why, the child does.
Chinese proverb

I wished to submit evidence against this, but I knew that my dad was an insecure asshole and loser. He's pushing 70, alone, with a colostomy bag last I heard.

You sure it wasn't Lik Suk Dong?

Nice try, but that's a Korean name

[megabyteme]

I wished to submit evidence against this, but I knew that my dad was an insecure asshole and loser. He's pushing 70, alone, with a colostomy bag last I heard.

There's some poetic justice in that. Mine never had to face up, or pay for any of his shit.

[mjmacky]

I wished to submit evidence against this, but I knew that my dad was an insecure asshole and loser. He's pushing 70, alone, with a colostomy bag last I heard.

There's some poetic justice in that. Mine never had to face up, or pay for any of his shit.

Do you know if you're in his will?

[megabyteme]

There's some poetic justice in that. Mine never had to face up, or pay for any of his shit.

Do you know if you're in his will?

I asked to not be.


CAUTION: REAL-LIFE POSTED IN SPOILER TAGS. THIS IS MAINLY MEANT FOR MACKY, BUT IT MAY BE OF VALUE TO THOSE WHO HAVE A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY. READ ON ONLY IF THIS IS OF INTEREST/HELP TO YOU.

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The short story is that I told him I do not want anything from him except for a photo album. My step-mother will be around for SEVERAL decades, so it is mostly a moot point, anyway. She's healthier than most 25 year-olds. Honestly, he has been of NO value to me. Had I never met him, my life would probably be 10-15 years ahead of where it is now. I will turn 40 in October, I am a new father (18 months tomorrow), and just now finishing my Master's. I should have been to this point by 25. Unfortunately, I spent all of those years trying to build the life I have now. I have a wonderful wife, twins, a nice house, an amazing education, and kind In-laws. I have nothing to do with my blood relatives. Not all of them are "bad" people, but there are too many entanglements with those who are.

I will gain a bit of peace when he's no longer around. He knows he is not welcome around my family- and I did (recently after 12 years of absolutely NO contact) give him a shot to stand up, and be a man. He could not admit to doing me wrong (he actually RAN out of my house when I brought it up). Since he does not recognize his failings, and the damage he did, I have to believe he has never learned what acceptable human behavior is. I've worked hard to not be him, and I will not allow him to poison my family with his presence.

We can take this to PM if you want to go into more details, macky. We are both survivors who have pushed ourselves forward in spite of our beginnings. I've posted this much in the open forums because I hope it may help someone else realize that bad family members can poison you life, and keep you down. I've seen too many people who have had their whole lives impaired by holding on to family who make their lives WORSE. It takes an amazing amount of strength to throw away everything for hopes of a healthy life, but I can say it is DEFINITELY worth the struggles involved.

Hope these words help someone...

[OlegL]

Megabyteme, I want to ask you something. Yes, I know that you told me that you wouldn't answer my posts, but I hope you will take pity on me and answer this post. You said that for quite some time, your father had been preventing you from achieving your goals in life. But in my case, something else prevents me from achieving my life goals - my disability. I am a "tard", developmentally delayed, and all kinds of other things. I've been receiving disability payments since 2005. Yet recently I was able to pass two classes, so don't you think passing those two classes made me achieve something? For the disabled person, it was an achievement. One of those classes will count toward my major, so don't you think I achieved something by passing it? And I am 29, which means I am not that old. Why did you start treating me harshly, knowing that I am disabled? I don't understand it.