Just when I think things can't get worse, they do.
A month ago, I nearly broke up with my Fiance (At the time), after that we called up the engagment, but continued going out, yesterday, after over 3 years, she broke up with me.
She doesn't have any reasons except that she felt this was coming and there was no avoiding it. I don't know what she is talking about. We have FANTASTIC times together, especially the night before we even broke up. My aunt has sat outside of my door and heard us laughing and talking for hours in a small, very cramped room. She even talked to my mom about how amazing it is that I found someone that I can just sit in a room for hours with and still have things to say and talk about.
She couldn't tell me that she wasn't in love with me anymore. My feeling is that you can love someone and not want to be with them (like loving a movie doesn't mean you want to watch it), but if you are in love with someone then that means you do want to be with them. I told her that and she still couldn't tell me that she wasn't in love with me. She just kept telling me that this is the best for both of us. I asked her but would she want to be with me tomarrow, and she couldn't say no. I don't understand why she broke up with me. She doesn't understand either, she just kept on saying 'It just doesn't feel right'.
So, can you be IN love with someone and not want to be with them? Is there any words of wisdom, or a similar experience that will comfort me a little, because needless to say, this is hard.
(B.T.W. - Nothing bad happened between us. She didn't meet someone else or anything like that. I do know this for sure. I should note that, if you look at her life, me and her would appear to be the least of her problems. She is having a hard time in every aspect of it. It looked to me like I was the only good thing. The person that could always cheer her up no matter what happened.)