Damn, i finally found out. I disabelled the firewall in the router at first.
Only on rare occassions i had green lights. Now i enabled it and forwarded the ports... bingo all lights green!
I still find it a bit weird that there's some kind of barierre even if the firewall is of
speeds didn't increase much they have always been good to me. Just see some more leechers now I posted this because it might just help some people that turned the router firewall off to