I am sorry I seem to be missing the whole point here.
We dont want to be heavy handed and hated, believe me...but we're also sick of being kicked for doing what we've been asked to do. Its not as if we get paid for the shit we get sometimes.
Who asked you to do what?
Is there a place on the forum where you can go and ask the Admin/Mods to do things? If there is does it work?
If you dont like it do what some of the members have been told to do, leave.
Admin/Mods make the rules without consultation. They apply the rules, sometimes without consultation. You have to complain to a mod through PM. They do not treat PM's as private conversations themseves but the members are expected to treat them as such. Why not discuss in the open forum where everyone can see what is being said. That is called democracy.
This system is not democratic, it is fascism.
OK I know if I am not satisfied I know what I can do.
On a closing point I dont expect you to listen to what I have to say. Why break a habit.