A Tricky Dilemma

[brenda]

OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....

He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!

Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.

What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.

[MicroScreen2]

say you gotta work

[RGX]

Originally posted by brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....

He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!

Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.

What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.

You've got a guardian, and hey you may end up liking him so I say go for it, free holiday.

[DarthInsinuate]

free holiday is a very strong point

[MicroScreen2]

Originally posted by RGX+9 August 2004 - 21:23--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (RGX @ 9 August 2004 - 21:23)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me.&nbsp; Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....

He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me&#33;

Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I&#39;m sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.

What shall I do, I really need a holiday.&nbsp; An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.

You&#39;ve got a guardian, and hey you may end up liking him so I say go for it, free holiday. [/b][/quote]
no cos then you&#39;ll be trapped with him for a week + it&#39;ll always be you and him or him and his mate. one of you will always feel left out

[Robert00000]

Originally posted by brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....

He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me&#33;

Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I&#39;m sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.

What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.

presumably you don&#39;t like him back, my advice would be to tell him that you just see him as a friend, so he gets the message.

Its a good idea to put him straight now before he thinks he has a chance with you and keeps trying.

I had this problem with a girl (literally a girl, she was only 15) i told her her age was a big issue and even encouraged her to date someone else.

[JONNO_CELEBS]

Originally posted by MicroScreen2@9 August 2004 - 21:26

no cos then you&#39;ll be trapped with him for a week + it&#39;ll always be you and him or him and his mate. one of you will always feel left out

Wow you&#39;re cheerful

Jonno B)

[BigDaddy555]

my biggest dilema, is whether to use the flat-head or the phillips

[Lilmiss]

Go girl&#33; Im jealous&#33;


Even though you are going on holiday together, doesn&#39;t mean you have to be about them all the time.

[Robert00000]

Originally posted by lilmiss@9 August 2004 - 21:30
Go girl&#33; Im jealous&#33;


Even though you are going on holiday together, doesn&#39;t mean you have to be about them all the time.

It seems a good idea to get the free holiday, but its likely he is asking her to go with him so he can make advances, if she refuses them I can see how sour the situation can become.

I feel she should be honest and say to him if he wants her to go just as friend then thats fine, but if he is expecting something in return then she cannot oblige.