Originally Posted by
coppercox
Jpaul's explanation makes sense.
I had the naive belief that the internet was where someone could come and ask questions just about anything, especially topics that are considered crass, rude, or taboo to ask in person. I will not meet any of you in person, hence, I do not get embarrassed asking such questions. But I see this is not the case in this forum where many of the posters have taken affront to my direct and blunt (tell it like it is, not beating around the bush) question.
I'll assume that since you used the words "naive belief" you will refrain from taking offense if I affirm that for you.
You may have abundant experience in internet forae, but you are new here, and a large part of the reason some of us came here and stayed is the protocol we have created, and to which we all strive to adhere.
It is not at all coercive, but it exists, nonetheless.
We accept each other as we are, and for the most part, we get what we give.
If you've begun by seeking to pigeonhole yourself and others, you have chosen well.
No, not young, I'm 38...and once again I posed the question just as I would - direct and to the point. The question is clear and understood without question (except for the poster who postulated another meaning: that I was "bragging" about what I made!!! lol...is that something to brag about???? $30 an hour???!!!! maybe my home valued at 129,000 is something to brag about!!! wow....)
Again, the point is not that you've chosen this as your topic, but that you've begun your tenure (such as it is, or might be) with it.
You've opted to "introduce" yourself with a question which is generally looked upon as the bastard third of the "religion, politics and paychecks" caution some of us got as we grew up.
The first two have been the subjects of some genuine throw-down action on this board, but I'd guess the other has been much less discussed for precisely the reason I've mentioned.
Wages, as a subject, are certainly not taboo here, it is simply that you have chosen a comprehensive discourse on same by way of introduction that indicates what type of person you may be, and what type of member you might make.
After all, we spend our lives judging, do we not?
What have I learned from posing such a question:
1. The people with thousands of posts seem to have the most difficulty answering the original thread. Such responses as: "i don't get paid hourly so i don't know" or "none of your fucking business!" beats around the bush.......and yeah, it isn't any business of mine so why would you even comment? goto another thread where you can discuss what is everyone's fucking business....
I have thousands of posts.
I have not minced around the subject in order to weasel out of answering, nor have I told you that it is "none of your fucking business!"
But, interestingly enough, I am quite sure I have not beaten around any bushes, either.
We comment because we are free to comment.
Any difficulties ingesting the fact are your own.
2. There are more reserved people in this forum than I expected. Many of these people have allegiances to each other so if I offend one the others come running to "comment-me-to-death"...they still didn't answer the question though.........
There is remarkably little of what you term "reserve" here, and the fact you use that word indicates your misapprehension.
What you are perceiving is convention.
Likewise, what you see as "allegiances" (which indeed exist) are nothing of the sort; we are human, and tend to gather around curiousities to comment or lurk as is our wont.
3. Post counts on forums are considered status symbols...so someone with thousands of posts appears to have a "respectable" status while a Noob (like me) with 50 posts is young and immature. Well, in real life someone that talks a lot usually isn't well respected since they seem to comment about everything....just for the sake of talking. I could easily spend a weekend commenting in every post "what a crass question" or something like that and end up in the hundreds of posts.....some people post just to make themselves feel some worth in these forums...
No getting around that one, I guess, though I would lean more toward the status of genuinely respectable, rather than "status symbol"; I'm sure you can appreciate the difference in connotation.
We generally equate a member's worth with the contribution he or she makes here.
On a personal note, may I say how gratified I am that you have chosen not to indulge any inclination you may have felt to ...spend a weekend commenting in every post "what a crass question" or something like that and end up in the hundreds of posts...
That would not be any way to introduce yourself.
4. I am enjoying this tremendously! What started off as a curious question has mushroomed into something more. Thank you!
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