Its Been To F*%king Long!

[sArA]

Ok all you blokes out there....


I am getting really pissed off now, I have been single for nearly 4 years!!!!!

Now I know I am not exactly a spring chicken as the big birthday has come and gone, but WHERE ARE ALL THE NICE GUYS????

All the guys interested in me I don't fancy and those I do fancy are either married or gay!

I need advice on finding a man. I don't want just a shag. I think 4 years is more than long enough and I am starting to think I may have a problem. :blink:

Not looking for major commitment here, just someone to go out with and stuff...

:helpsmile:

[*goddess*]

:blink: I've been single nearly 18 months




:rolleyes: Don't think I'd be one to ask for advice. :)


;) Mind you, you were asking the blokes so if ya don't mind I'll just wait with ya and see what they have to say.

[100%]

Go do something which you dont normally do
ie - take saome courses, hiking whatever where your forced to meet people in an active setting.

There are billions of blokes whod lov to meet you - but their probably shy

you must make move

everyday you pass by 100s of blokes
with actually how many do you speak to
in the supermarket
on the street
in teh cafe?
etc

if you try to speak to atleast 50% of them youll have more chance than if you didnt

this appplies for us guyz too

you dont have to meet the SoulMate in Bar or Disco

[bujub22]

go to church ,library or let a friend set u up?

[Celerystalksme]

Sorry one night stands only :lol:

I guess i go out again 6 months after a relationship breakup...so call me in a month :)

And if you want to find a man ask as many guys as you want (that you like) and hope for the best...

Laters
Cely :music1:

[sArA]

Originally posted by Zedaxax@7 May 2004 - 12:54
Go do something which you dont normally do
ie - take saome courses, hiking whatever where your forced to meet people in an active setting.

There are billions of blokes whod lov to meet you - but their probably shy

you must make move

everyday you pass by 100s of blokes
with actually how many do you speak to
in the supermarket
on the street
in teh cafe?
etc

if you try to speak to atleast 50% of them youll have more chance than if you didnt

this appplies for us guyz too

you dont have to meet the SoulMate in Bar or Disco
sage advice... :)

[bujub22]

jus show them how wild u can be !


go to a bar and out drink the first guy u see
slap any bitch who get's close to the guy your eyeing
then tell him it's on like donkey kong lover!! :D

[Celerystalksme]

Plus dont advertise on a internet forum...you have all sorts of weirdos pm'in ya :lol:

but if ya want a quick fix..try internet dating...its fun and anonymous :lol:

Laters
Cely

[brotherdoobie]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 07:48
Ok all you blokes out there....


I am getting really pissed off now, I have been single for nearly 4 years!!!!!

Now I know I am not exactly a spring chicken as the big birthday has come and gone, but WHERE ARE ALL THE NICE GUYS????

All the guys interested in me I don't fancy and those I do fancy are either married or gay!

I need advice on finding a man. I don't want just a shag.  I think 4 years is more than long enough and I am starting to think I may have a problem.  :blink:

Not looking for major commitment here, just someone to go out with and stuff...

:helpsmile:
http://img57.photobucket.com/albums/v173/brotherdoobie/B000058DG8.jpg

Mabey you should stop looking for the nice guys :devil:

Peace brotherdoobie

[100%]

And if ALL else fails

Travel

Azia, Africa, South America - youll probbly find a more respecting partner there
and faster
or maybe another traveller
+ a better life

[*goddess*]

@Zedaxax that's fine if you're not incredibly shy

@Bujub except for the church that's a possibility

your 2nd post: Been there done that. :lol:

@BD Good point! :lol:

[bujub22]

do u live in the states??

[*goddess*]

:unsure: Me? Nope Australia.

[sArA]

Originally posted by brotherdoobie@7 May 2004 - 13:00


http://img57.photobucket.com/albums/v173/brotherdoobie/B000058DG8.jpg

Mabey you should stop looking for the nice guys :devil:

Peace brotherdoobie
Well, he looks a complete dork!!!!

'nice' is an odd word really, I guess I mean a guy I like. This does not mean 'nice' in the doormatty kind of way.

My criteria:

Taller than me (at least 5' 8")
Nice looking
Intelligent
honest
Not too many hang ups
Has a spark (tricky this one, someone who does not always follow the pack and is not a boring stick in the mud)
Not tight (sick of tight fisted s.o.b's)
Not obese


Or am I being unrealistic here?

[bujub22]

Originally posted by *goddess*@7 May 2004 - 09:05
:unsure: Me? Nope Australia.
cool ! ;) i wanted to visit there,but i was asking sara no offense ;)

[*goddess*]

:) I don't think you're being unrealistic at all Sara.


@Bujub..... no offence taken it is Sara's thread after all. :)

[sArA]

I live in the UK, but spent 10 months in Boston MA last year, without so much as a sniff!!!!


@ goddess... aren't you surprised at how thoughtful these answers have been so far, but then maybe the flamers aren't online just yet :lol: :lol:

@ bujub Not my style and to be honest, I have had plenty of offers for that 'type' of scenario but in my experience those guys tend to be nobs anyway! :lol:

@ zedaxax I have travelled quite a bit, but like I said above...not a sniff!

[brotherdoobie]

Or am I being unrealistic here?

Not at all Sara :)
Good luck in your search...I'm off to bed

Peace brotherdoobie B)

[sArA]

Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger! :lol:

[bujub22]

Originally posted by sara5564+7 May 2004 - 09:08--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (sara5564 @ 7 May 2004 - 09:08)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-brotherdoobie@7 May 2004 - 13:00


http://img57.photobucket.com/albums/v173/brotherdoobie/B000058DG8.jpg

Mabey you should stop looking for the nice guys :devil:

Peace brotherdoobie
Well, he looks a complete dork&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

&#39;nice&#39; is an odd word really, I guess I mean a guy I like. This does not mean &#39;nice&#39; in the doormatty kind of way.

My criteria:

Taller than me (at least 5&#39; 8")
Nice looking
Intelligent
honest
Not too many hang ups
Has a spark (tricky this one, someone who does not always follow the pack and is not a boring stick in the mud)
Not tight (sick of tight fisted s.o.b&#39;s)
Not obese


Or am I being unrealistic here? [/b][/quote]
sure are watchin to many movies :D

[*goddess*]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:25
I live in the UK, but spent 10 months in Boston MA last year, without so much as a sniff&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;


@ goddess... aren&#39;t you surprised at how thoughtful these answers have been so far, but then maybe the flamers aren&#39;t online just yet :lol: :lol:

@ bujub Not my style and to be honest, I have had plenty of offers for that &#39;type&#39; of scenario but in my experience those guys tend to be nobs anyway&#33; :lol:

@ zedaxax I have travelled quite a bit, but like I said above...not a sniff&#33;
;) they have been nice and gentle havent&#39; they.


:blink: What&#39;s a minger? That like a fugly?

[BigBoo]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33; :lol:
*sniff sniff*

maybe youre just reading the signs wrong

[sArA]

Originally posted by *goddess*@7 May 2004 - 13:29


:blink: What&#39;s a minger? That like a fugly?
I would think so...


If that means that they are:

a dog
a battleaxe
a slapper
a trout
or generally an ugly fucker&#33;&#33;&#33; :D

That is not to say that I think I am super gorge either..... :ph34r:

[bujub22]

have u ever had your girlfriends set u up?

and if so what went wrong?

[*goddess*]

;) Yup you got it Sara fugly is f**ken ugly. :lol:

[sArA]

Originally posted by BigBoo+7 May 2004 - 13:30--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (BigBoo @ 7 May 2004 - 13:30)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33;&nbsp; :lol:
*sniff sniff*

maybe youre just reading the signs wrong [/b][/quote]
You saying that my mirror is distorted and in actual fact I look like spider dude&#39;s avatar?


OMG&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; Maybe I have been living under the illusion that I was at least passable&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;


My life is in tatters&#33; :&#39;(

[bujub22]

Originally posted by sara5564+7 May 2004 - 09:35--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (sara5564 @ 7 May 2004 - 09:35)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by BigBoo@7 May 2004 - 13:30
<!--QuoteBegin-sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33; :lol:
*sniff sniff*

maybe youre just reading the signs wrong
You saying that my mirror is distorted and in actual fact I look like spider dude&#39;s avatar?


OMG&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; Maybe I have been living under the illusion that I was at least passable&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;


My life is in tatters&#33; :&#39;( [/b][/quote]
:lol: :lol: :lol:

[BigBoo]

i meant weo things by talking don we? dogs sniff


sorry bad joke :(

[*goddess*]

:lol: I think (hope) he meant signs guys are giving out?

[sArA]

Originally posted by bujub22@7 May 2004 - 13:33
have u ever had your girlfriends set u up?

and if so what went wrong?
Unfortunately, all my female friends are married with kids and don&#39;t go out much.

Most of my mates are male and they like me, but mates is mates ya know... <_<

If I was gonna &#39;go there&#39; I would have already.

I think I have pretty much seen whats around here, I need to spread my wings a bit, but its nerve wracking going out on your own and when I am with my male mates, people presume we are a couple.

[Snee]

Originally posted by sara5564+7 May 2004 - 14:35--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (sara5564 @ 7 May 2004 - 14:35)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by BigBoo@7 May 2004 - 13:30
<!--QuoteBegin-sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33;&nbsp; :lol:
*sniff sniff*

maybe youre just reading the signs wrong
You saying that my mirror is distorted and in actual fact I look like spider dude&#39;s avatar?


OMG&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; Maybe I have been living under the illusion that I was at least passable&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;


My life is in tatters&#33; :&#39;( [/b][/quote]
:wub: @SD&#39;s avatar.

Feelin&#39; better now?

[bujub22]

i wana see a picture of sara,and u too goddess ;)

[sArA]

Originally posted by BigBoo@7 May 2004 - 13:36
i meant weo things by talking don we? dogs sniff


sorry bad joke :(
:D :D :D :lol: :lol: :lol:

[Rat Faced]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 13:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33; :lol:
Out of my league then :(

[ownedbyme13]

i would probably do sara, depending on how much i had had to drink.

[DanB]

:lol: :lol:

Thats not very nice.

:blink:




:unsure:

[[N][O][B]]

Originally posted by danb@7 May 2004 - 23:27
:lol: :lol:

Thats not very nice.

:blink:




:unsure:
we cant jusge that till she posts a pic.

[leezathehoneybird]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 12:48
Ok all you blokes out there....


I am getting really pissed off now, I have been single for nearly 4 years&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

Now I know I am not exactly a spring chicken as the big birthday has come and gone, but WHERE ARE ALL THE NICE GUYS????

All the guys interested in me I don&#39;t fancy and those I do fancy are either married or gay&#33;

I need advice on finding a man. I don&#39;t want just a shag. I think 4 years is more than long enough and I am starting to think I may have a problem. :blink:

Not looking for major commitment here, just someone to go out with and stuff...

:helpsmile:
just forget about even looking and trust me once u start havng fun as an indenpendant woman men will be flocking to yo side (also wear v-short skrits, get ya tits out and tell everone that your not looking for comittment but luuuuvvvvvv the cock&#33;)

[DanB]

Thats pretty sound advice, but not to moch of a cock lover or you get called a slut :P

[leezathehoneybird]

Originally posted by danb@8 May 2004 - 01:15
Thats pretty sound advice, but not to moch of a cock lover or you get called a slut :P
:P

[chalice]

Originally posted by leezathe honeybird+8 May 2004 - 01:06--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (leezathe honeybird @ 8 May 2004 - 01:06)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-sara5564@7 May 2004 - 12:48
Ok all you blokes out there....


I am getting really pissed off now, I have been single for nearly 4 years&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33;

Now I know I am not exactly a spring chicken as the big birthday has come and gone, but WHERE ARE ALL THE NICE GUYS????

All the guys interested in me I don&#39;t fancy and those I do fancy are either married or gay&#33;

I need advice on finding a man. I don&#39;t want just a shag.&nbsp; I think 4 years is more than long enough and I am starting to think I may have a problem.&nbsp; :blink:

Not looking for major commitment here, just someone to go out with and stuff...

:helpsmile:
just forget about even looking and trust me once u start havng fun as an indenpendant woman men will be flocking to yo side (also wear v-short skrits, get ya tits out and tell everone that your not looking for comittment but luuuuvvvvvv the cock&#33;) [/b][/quote]
Listen to this woman, Sara. She has an astute insight into the male psyche.

[namzuf9]

The real fucked up thing in life is love can hit you when you least expect it.
I met my girl through a friend I had&#39;nt seen for about 5 years and just happened to bump into when I was out on a works xmas do.
Open up your social life a bit, have some fun and dont worry about being single. One day you&#39;ll meet someone and just click with them.
Good luck hunny. ;)

[clocker]

Originally posted by sara5564@7 May 2004 - 06:26
Oh...and before anyone suggests it...I am not considered a Minger&#33; :lol:
No you are not...I have the piccies to prove it.

Unfortunately, I believe that your search is predicated on the false assumption that the "nice guy" exists in Nature.
The last known pack of Nice Guys went extinct in the 40&#39;s.
Attempts to preserve them in zoos failed and they are but a fond memory now.


Sorry.

[bujub22]

if in all u cant find a man a vibrater is the next best thing&#33;.. use energizer it keeps goin and goin and goin and goin&#33; :lol: :lol:

[j2k4]

Don&#39;t believe Clocker, Sara-there are a few nice guys left-I was one until I got married, now I&#39;m just....um....unavailable.

Actually, I have a buddy who got his ass handed to him by his ex and he is on an intellectual plane that doesn&#39;t quite intersect with mere mortals; I&#39;m trying to get him to get out more (pubs; what have you), and while he has tried, he goes with the wrong approach.

I&#39;ve told him to go with the express purpose of working on his skills as a "bar athlete"; pool, darts, foosball (tablesoccer)-give yourself another reason for enjoying a social scene, change your focus, and get out there.

They&#39;ll find you, trust me.

When I was single, that was the trick; the minute I was "there" for a different reason, my "luck" changed.

[Ella]

Originally posted by bujub22@8 May 2004 - 13:49
if in all u cant find a man a vibrater is the next best thing&#33;.. use energizer it keeps goin and goin and goin and goin&#33;
Uhu....Mr Buzzy is the first best thing&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; B)

[clocker]

Originally posted by Ella@8 May 2004 - 03:56

Uhu....Mr Buzzy is the first best thing&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; B)
Which, of course, goes a long way towards explaining the decline and ultimate demise of "Mr. Nice Guy".

Becoming irrelevant is very disheartening. :(

[brotherdoobie]

if in all u cant find a man a vibrater is the next best thing&#33;.. use energizer it keeps goin and goin and goin and goin&#33;&nbsp;

Trust him...He speaks from personal experience. ;)

Peace brotherdoobie

[j2k4]

Originally posted by clocker+8 May 2004 - 12:38--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (clocker &#064; 8 May 2004 - 12:38)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteBegin-Ella@8 May 2004 - 03:56

Uhu....Mr Buzzy is the first best thing&#33;&#33;&#33;&#33; B)
Which, of course, goes a long way towards explaining the decline and ultimate demise of "Mr. Nice Guy".

Becoming irrelevant is very disheartening. :([/b][/quote]
Hadn&#39;t thought of that. :huh:

Hard (by that I mean difficult) for guys to even get training time; most women who regard themselves as self-sufficient have a "Mr. Buzzy" laying (and by that I mean in a state of repose) around somewhere. ;)

[hobbes]

Originally posted by j2k4@8 May 2004 - 05:56
When I was single, that was the trick; the minute I was "there" for a different reason, my "luck" changed.
Words of wisdom here. If you appear to be somewhere for the sole purpose of meeting someone, you reek of "bar fly" and you will approached by men looking for an easy lay.

If you appear content just playing pool or foosball, people will get the impression that you are confident and secure and you just may be worth the effort to go talk to.

I have used the trick of the "bad break" to direct the cue ball toward a ladies table. It is a way to break the ice, without the use of alcohol or a pickup line.

I tried this one while playing darts as well, but the results were less than satisfying.

http://www.twoevilmonks.org/alias/asimg/imagessn3/301/ashd301037.jpg
Owww&#33; What the hell was that?&#33;


Word of caution though, don&#39;t be that chick who takes the games too seriously. Don&#39;t bring your own pool cue, you know the kind that comes in a case a needs to be assembled. Don&#39;t make an exhibition of rolling cues on the table and covering your hands in chalk. And don&#39;t be that chick who carries an aerosol can of lubricant in her purse for the foosball game. The "freak" alarm goes off and men run for cover.

[DanB]

What&#39;s foosball? :blink: :blink:

[hobbes]

Originally posted by danb@8 May 2004 - 22:57
What&#39;s foosball? :blink: :blink:
What sort of Pre-Google universe do you live in?

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[DanB]

Originally posted by hobbes+8 May 2004 - 23:14--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (hobbes @ 8 May 2004 - 23:14)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-danb@8 May 2004 - 22:57
What&#39;s foosball?&nbsp; :blink:&nbsp; :blink:
What sort of Pre-Google universe do you live in?

Image Resized
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[img]http://www.beaconschool.org/SeniorTrip2000/Foosball.jpg' width='200' height='120' border='0' alt='click for full size view'> (http://www.beaconschool.org/SeniorTrip2000/Foosball.jpg) [/b][/quote]
Ah, table football :D