25 Signs You're Hearing A Lie

[ZaZu]

Whether it's your spouse, your boss, or your child, it's possible to determine if that person is lying to you just by carefully watching for clues.

According to Sheri and Bob Stritof, authors of "Your Guide to Marriage" on About.com, there are specific verbal and nonverbal clues we all give when we tell a fib. While few people would exhibit all of these, it's the rare person who can tell a lie and not exhibit some of them!

25 signs to tell if someone is lying to you:

1. Touching the chin or rubbing the brow
2. Crossed arms or legs
3. Playing with hair
4. A line of perspiration on the brow if it isn't a warm day
5. Saying "no" several times
6. Continually denying accusations
7. Being extremely defensive
8. Providing more information and specifics than necessary
9. Inconsistencies in what is being shared
10. Body language and facial expressions don't match what is being said such as
saying "no," but nodding the head up and down
11. Smugness
12. Placing a barrier, such as a desk or chair, in front of self
13. Uncommon calmness
14. Unwillingness to touch spouse during conversation
15. Being hesitant
16. Slouching posture
17. Rigidity or fidgeting
18. Differing behaviors; not acting in a usual fashion
19. Unnatural or limited arm and hand movements
20. Partial shrug
21. Lack of finger pointing
22. Unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure
23. Stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like "um" or "you know"
24. Lack of use of contractions; prefers emphasizing "not" when talking
25. Avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you, or turning away from you while talking

The Stritofs note that it is quite possible to mistake nervousness or distraction for lying or for misreading or mislabeling your spouse's behaviors.

What do you do if you think you're being told a lie by someone who is close to you?
Ask questions.
Ask for clarification.
Trust your gut.

Source (http://channels.netscape.com/ns/love/package.jsp?name=fte/hearingalie/hearingalie)

[j2k4]

If I spot all 25 signs at once, should I call an ambulance before or after I claim my prize? :huh:

[MicroScreen2]

25 cliche ways to tell if someone is lying.

you know sustained eye contact iis how you know i someone is lying, broken ey cntact is trying to remember. so is touching the chin.

touching the nose (covering mouth) is a sign people are hesitant to speak

[3RA1N1AC]

let's not forget the surest sign: the lips are moving and words are coming out.

[Snee]

Someone can still tell the truth, and do all of those things, tho' prolly not all at once.

Those signs are a bit silly and sort of stereotypical.

Some people are just shifty by nature. And some of the signs might as well point to them being shy, or on drugs.


I hope no one lives by those rules, is all I'm saying.

[lynx]

17. Rigidity or fidgeting

This one particularly caught my eye.

Rigidity (not fidgeting) or fidgeting.

Your damned if you do and you are damnd if you don't. :rolleyes:

[Snee]

Originally posted by lynx@6 August 2004 - 21:21

17. Rigidity or fidgeting

This one particularly caught my eye.

Rigidity (not fidgeting) or fidgeting.

Your damned if you do and you are damnd if you don't. :rolleyes:
And damn suspect if you do both at the same time, I'd say.

[3RA1N1AC]

Originally posted by ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 14:12
6. Continually denying accusations
this one is particularly good.

[Snee]

Originally posted by 3RA1N1AC+6 August 2004 - 21:51--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (3RA1N1AC @ 6 August 2004 - 21:51)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 14:12
6. Continually denying accusations
this one is particularly good. [/b][/quote]
Yeah, an honest person would fess up right away.

[MicroScreen2]

Originally posted by SnnY+6 August 2004 - 21:24--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (SnnY @ 6 August 2004 - 21:24)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by 3RA1N1AC@6 August 2004 - 21:51
<!--QuoteBegin-ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 14:12
6. Continually denying accusations
this one is particularly good.
Yeah, an honest person would fess up right away. [/b][/quote]
:lol: :lol: :lol:

[MicroScreen2]

11. Smugness


i thought this means youre right

[3RA1N1AC]

Originally posted by SnnY+6 August 2004 - 13:24--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (SnnY &#064; 6 August 2004 - 13:24)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by 3RA1N1AC@6 August 2004 - 21:51
<!--QuoteBegin-ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 14:12
6. Continually denying accusations
this one is particularly good.
Yeah, an honest person would fess up right away. [/b][/quote]
"if you&#39;re so innocent, why won&#39;t you admit to what you did?"
"because i didn&#39;t do it?"
"ah ha&#33; denial&#33; sign #6 on the &#39;how to spot a liar&#39; list&#33;"

[spinningfreemanny]

Originally posted by ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 22:12
10. Body language and facial expressions don&#39;t match what is being said such as saying "no," but nodding the head up and down

What? if you say no and nod yes you just aren&#39;t a good liar. :lol:

[vidcc]

Originally posted by 3RA1N1AC+6 August 2004 - 17:07--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (3RA1N1AC @ 6 August 2004 - 17:07)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by SnnY@6 August 2004 - 13:24

Originally posted by 3RA1N1AC@6 August 2004 - 21:51
<!--QuoteBegin-ZaZu@5 August 2004 - 14:12
6. Continually denying accusations
this one is particularly good.
Yeah, an honest person would fess up right away.
"if you&#39;re so innocent, why won&#39;t you admit to what you did?"
"because i didn&#39;t do it?"
"ah ha&#33; denial&#33; sign #6 on the &#39;how to spot a liar&#39; list&#33;" [/b][/quote]
Ah...our foriegn policy in laymans terms :( :lol: :lol:

[Chame1eon]

Originally posted by MicroScreen2@5 August 2004 - 20:24
25 cliche ways to tell if someone is lying.

you know sustained eye contact iis how you know i someone is lying, broken ey cntact is trying to remember. so is touching the chin.

touching the nose (covering mouth) is a sign people are hesitant to speak
according to psych book it depeds on which way the person is looking one direction indicates inventing and the other remembering. you can test it by asking aperson to recall something or to imajine something. i tried it on 4 people and it almost always worked.

Edit: it was a speech book

[Gemby!]

when i lie you dont need signs - its just obvious &#33; :01:

[Biggles]

Originally posted by gemby&#33;@7 August 2004 - 11:04
when i lie you dont need signs - its just obvious &#33; :01:
:lol:

"It wasn&#39;t me, honest" is never very convincing

[Gemby!]

Originally posted by Biggles+7 August 2004 - 17:26--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Biggles @ 7 August 2004 - 17:26)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-gemby&#33;@7 August 2004 - 11:04
when i lie you dont need signs - its just obvious &#33; :01:
:lol:

"It wasn&#39;t me, honest" is never very convincing [/b][/quote]
so thats where im going wrong :frusty:

[Everose]

Seems to me that to detect if you are &#39;hearing&#39; a lie you have to do more &#39;seeing&#39; than hearing :D

[j2k4]

Originally posted by Everose@7 August 2004 - 20:13
Seems to me that to detect if you are &#39;hearing&#39; a lie you have to do more &#39;seeing&#39; than hearing :D
That&#39;s about right. ;)

[mrlessk]

25 Signs You&#39;re Hearing A Lie
umm....you&#39;re watching Court TV and Scott Peterson is saying something. :huh:

mrlessk :)

[colt45joe]

but, i am always doing most of those things, seriously, i am. all 25. even when im not lying, when im just in a normal conversation.


:(

[MagicNakor]

Maybe you&#39;re a pathological liar.

Yeah, that&#39;s the ticket.

:ninja:

[mrlessk]

Originally posted by colt45joe@12 August 2004 - 15:22
but, i am always doing most of those things, seriously, i am. all 25. even when im not lying, when im just in a normal conversation.&nbsp; :(
He&#39;s lyin&#39;...I can tell&#33;

:lol: :P :D

[j2k4]

Originally posted by mrlessk+12 August 2004 - 19:39--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (mrlessk @ 12 August 2004 - 19:39)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-colt45joe@12 August 2004 - 15:22
but, i am always doing most of those things, seriously, i am. all 25. even when im not lying, when im just in a normal conversation. &nbsp; :(
He&#39;s lyin&#39;...I can tell&#33;

:lol: :P :D [/b][/quote]
Yeah, I think you&#39;re right-something in the punctuation.... ;)