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brenda
08-09-2004, 08:45 PM
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....
He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!
Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.
What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.
MicroScreen2
08-09-2004, 09:20 PM
say you gotta work
Originally posted by brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....
He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!
Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.
What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.
You've got a guardian, and hey you may end up liking him so I say go for it, free holiday. :)
DarthInsinuate
08-09-2004, 09:23 PM
free holiday is a very strong point
MicroScreen2
08-09-2004, 09:25 PM
Originally posted by RGX+9 August 2004 - 21:23--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (RGX @ 9 August 2004 - 21:23)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....
He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!
Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.
What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.
You've got a guardian, and hey you may end up liking him so I say go for it, free holiday. :) [/b][/quote]
no cos then you'll be trapped with him for a week + it'll always be you and him or him and his mate. one of you will always feel left out :(
Robert00000
08-09-2004, 09:26 PM
Originally posted by brenda@9 August 2004 - 20:46
OK, there is this guy who I have been good friends with for about 12 years, but over the last few years he has developed an unhealthy obssesion with me. Every time he is drunk he tells me how much he loves me etc....
He has just phoned me up and wants me to go on holiday with him and him mate for a week to Ibiza - and they will pay for me!
Now his mate is the cousin of my ex-husband and is like a brother to me so I'm sure that he will look out for me but nevert he less I think I might be asking for trouble if I go.
What shall I do, I really need a holiday. An all expenses paid holiday would be mint, but it could turn into a complete nightmare.
presumably you don't like him back, my advice would be to tell him that you just see him as a friend, so he gets the message.
Its a good idea to put him straight now before he thinks he has a chance with you and keeps trying.
I had this problem with a girl (literally a girl, she was only 15) i told her her age was a big issue and even encouraged her to date someone else.
JONNO_CELEBS
08-09-2004, 09:27 PM
Originally posted by MicroScreen2@9 August 2004 - 21:26
no cos then you'll be trapped with him for a week + it'll always be you and him or him and his mate. one of you will always feel left out :(
Wow you're cheerful :frusty:
Jonno B)
BigDaddy555
08-09-2004, 09:27 PM
my biggest dilema, is whether to use the flat-head or the phillips
Lilmiss
08-09-2004, 09:29 PM
http://hometown.aol.co.uk/Lynne1977uk/cheer+leading.gifGo girl! Im jealous! :)
Even though you are going on holiday together, doesn't mean you have to be about them all the time. ;)
Robert00000
08-09-2004, 09:33 PM
Originally posted by lilmiss@9 August 2004 - 21:30
http://hometown.aol.co.uk/Lynne1977uk/cheerleader.gifGo girl! Im jealous! :)
Even though you are going on holiday together, doesn't mean you have to be about them all the time. ;)
It seems a good idea to get the free holiday, but its likely he is asking her to go with him so he can make advances, if she refuses them I can see how sour the situation can become.
I feel she should be honest and say to him if he wants her to go just as friend then thats fine, but if he is expecting something in return then she cannot oblige.
MicroScreen2
08-09-2004, 09:36 PM
Originally posted by JONNO_CELEBS+9 August 2004 - 21:28--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (JONNO_CELEBS @ 9 August 2004 - 21:28)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-MicroScreen2@9 August 2004 - 21:26
no cos then you'll be trapped with him for a week + it'll always be you and him or him and his mate. one of you will always feel left out :(
Wow you're cheerful :frusty:
Jonno B) [/b][/quote]
better to make your excuses first, than be uncomfortable for a week or however long the holiday is
brenda
08-09-2004, 10:42 PM
@ Microscreen - yes thats my main concern, being trapped for a week and having a crap time
@ Robert - He already knows that I don't feel anything other than friendship for him, but unfortunately he seems to forget this when he's had a drink, and on hliday I can imagine him drinking quite a lot.
@ Big daddy - hello you :)
@ Darth & lilmiss - yes a free holiday is rather tempting isn't it !
@ RGX - there's no chance of me falling for him (my heart is elsewhere :) ) and yes the my guardian will hopefully protect me, but what if he just gets drunk all the time and it turns into a lads holiday and I have to do all the cooking lol
BigDaddy555
08-10-2004, 02:56 AM
Originally posted by brenda@9 August 2004 - 16:43
@ Big daddy - hello you :)
hello little darlin' ;)
TheRealDave
08-10-2004, 03:02 AM
Free holiday can't be too bad. Then again you will both be gettin drunk quite a bit (presumably) so god knows what will happen! :unsure:
Spicker
08-10-2004, 03:08 AM
better to be safe than a free holiday :01:
what does ur heart say?
what does ur brain say?
go or no go?
Alucard1475
08-10-2004, 03:43 AM
He will probably want something in return for it and that's very likely; YOU. ;)
brenda
08-10-2004, 10:29 AM
You are all right, I should not go.
Damn it, its raining VERY heavily here today, my lawn has turned into a lake and the roof is leaking :(
How nice it would be to watch the sun set Cala Gracio
ohhhhhhh my beautiful Eivissa.
AussieSheila
08-10-2004, 10:41 AM
I'd be completely honest and tell him you are busting for a holiday but not if it comes with strings attached.
If he gets drunk and starts to come on to you, move away, lose yourself in the party crowd and catch up with your mates in the morning. ;)
Go for it, go lay in the sun. B)
Just cut it off if he comes near you :01:
Mathea
08-10-2004, 11:20 AM
is this guy named dan by chance?
Originally posted by Mathea@10 August 2004 - 12:21
is this guy named dan by chance?
What are you implying? :unsure:
(>Zero Cool<)
08-10-2004, 12:36 PM
Sounds like a difficult situation you would be putting yourself into, but the carrot dangled before you is golden with diamond studs.
If it were a weekend away at a local crap holiday resort you prob wouldn't go, but a week in the sun is very tempting, I know it's pissing down here too. :(
Things always get a bit strange on hols, seeing people all the time, lodsa drink etc stuff happens. That is cool if it is left on holiday but not if you have to face it all when you get home. When you say obsessed do you mean that this guy is likely to spend his time leering at you by the poolside? Also might not be easy for your guardian to put himself between you and his good mate, you need to think about this one, or have a really good talk with your mate. :)
Hmmm.
You could always use him for sex and then dump him.
Maybe that'll teach him. :rolleyes:
(>Zero Cool<)
08-10-2004, 12:53 PM
Originally posted by SnnY@10 August 2004 - 12:48
Hmmm.
You could always use him for sex and then dump him.
Maybe that'll teach him. :rolleyes:
a most cunning plan mr snny :lol:
Spicker
08-10-2004, 12:54 PM
Originally posted by SnnY@10 August 2004 - 13:48
Hmmm.
You could always use him for sex and then dump him.
Maybe that'll teach him. :rolleyes:
:lol: :lol: :lol:
good one :rolleyes:
Mathea
08-10-2004, 04:37 PM
Originally posted by danb+10 August 2004 - 12:21--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (danb @ 10 August 2004 - 12:21)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteBegin-Mathea@10 August 2004 - 12:21
is this guy named dan by chance?
What are you implying? :unsure:[/b][/quote]
oh um..... nothing?
Originally posted by Mathea+10 August 2004 - 17:38--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Mathea @ 10 August 2004 - 17:38)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by danb@10 August 2004 - 12:21
<!--QuoteBegin-Mathea@10 August 2004 - 12:21
is this guy named dan by chance?
What are you implying? :unsure:
oh um..... nothing? [/b][/quote]
Good, good :D
Mathea
08-10-2004, 04:39 PM
damn that was easy
Originally posted by Mathea@10 August 2004 - 17:40
damn that was easy
I am lulling you into a false sense of security :01:
Mathea
08-10-2004, 04:47 PM
:o you would do that?
Originally posted by brenda@10 August 2004 - 11:30
You are all right, I should not go.
Damn it, its raining VERY heavily here today, my lawn has turned into a lake and the roof is leaking :(
How nice it would be to watch the sun set Cala Gracio
ohhhhhhh my beautiful Eivissa.
So, has it rained enough to make you go yet?
Over 80mm here overnight, and it has hardly stopped since.
Went out during one of the brief pauses earlier, when I got out of the car my glasses steamed up (outside!), I've never known humidity as high.
Mathea
08-10-2004, 04:58 PM
Originally posted by danb@10 August 2004 - 16:52
of course :P
well i for one am SHOCKED!!!!!
You shouldn't be, I have been learning from you
Originally posted by (>Zero Cool<)+10 August 2004 - 14:54--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE ((>Zero Cool<) @ 10 August 2004 - 14:54)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-SnnY@10 August 2004 - 12:48
Hmmm.
You could always use him for sex and then dump him.
Maybe that'll teach him. :rolleyes:
a most cunning plan mr snny :lol: [/b][/quote]
One tries.
Thought long and hard about it.
Mathea
08-10-2004, 05:15 PM
Originally posted by danb@10 August 2004 - 17:04
You shouldn't be, I have been learning from you
oh well that changes everything
Mathea
08-10-2004, 05:45 PM
so smart
Spicker
08-10-2004, 05:46 PM
Originally posted by Mathea@10 August 2004 - 18:46
so smart
i know i am :D
Mathea
08-10-2004, 06:01 PM
this will teach me to clarify who i am replying to
Originally posted by Mathea@10 August 2004 - 20:02
this will teach me to clarify who i am replying to
To be honest tho', it took a half-wit to miss your intention there. :D
Mathea
08-10-2004, 06:04 PM
Originally posted by SnnY+10 August 2004 - 18:03--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (SnnY @ 10 August 2004 - 18:03)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Mathea@10 August 2004 - 20:02
this will teach me to clarify who i am replying to
To be honest tho', it took a half-wit to miss your intention there. :D [/b][/quote]
:lol: :lol: that it did
Originally posted by SnnY+10 August 2004 - 19:03--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (SnnY @ 10 August 2004 - 19:03)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Mathea@10 August 2004 - 20:02
this will teach me to clarify who i am replying to
To be honest tho', it took a half-wit to miss your intention there. :D [/b][/quote]
He is the half wit :rolleyes:
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