someone please tell me Im an arse?

[Lilmiss]

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:

[DanB]

I think you know what todo and I think its the right thing.

If he said he wouldhe should have done, not just leave you hanging on the side

[Lilmiss]

Uh huh.
I feel like his dirty ho. :unsure:


:blushing:

[Guillaume]

Sorry to say so, but you're being used.

He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?

Tell him to go f*ck himself.

And the money? That's just insulting.

[Jon L. Obscene]

:( Poor lilmiss.

I hate answering stuff like this but you asked for honesty, if this is the same guy you told me about ages ago then it has been a while, but from reading the above I can't see much thinking on his part above his waisteline :(
You's a great girl and can do better than someone who uses you as a shoulder but can't return the favour.
Ultimately it's your choice, no one can make it for you, no one can assure you the grass is greener on the other side, I guess a life changing descision comes to us all at some point, it's a fork in the road, you have to flip a coin and pick a route.
Following your heart is the only way, it may lead to others being hurt, it may lead to you being hurt, but if you don't you will always wonder "What if" , sit down alone for a while, no friends, no internet, no tv or music, just quiet and think about what YOU really want.
You know's us lot will always be here to help :)

Follow your heart, not your head :)

Jonno :cool:

[Yogi]

Sorry to say so, but you're being used.

He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?

Tell him to go f*ck himself.

And the money? That's just insulting.

Well said, G.

Dump the loser.

You are worth a real* man.



Yogi


*Truthfull, honest, caring.

[Lilmiss]

Thanks guys.
I have no idea where I stand, but as far as I can tell, Im single.

Thing is, I have told him to piss off so many times, and he just keeps coming back and hurting me.

I know I have to get away.
Too many bad memories here.
Apart form that, Im fed up of getting no respect.


Yeah, Gurahl.
That's what I said.
He offered me £500. :ph34r:

[RPerry]

Don't be too hard on yourself lilmiss, Most of us have been in similar situations. I'm not about to call you any names, and you shouldn't call yourself any either. I have to agree with Yogi, walk away and find yourself a real man ;)

[Lilmiss]

Hmmm.....easier said than done.

Thanks again peeps.
/goes for a sulk. :crying:

[Jon L. Obscene]

Most things are :(
You's strong girl tho :01:

You'll find your answer :)

Jonno :cool:

[Mr. Mulder]

Take the money and buy a nice box of chocolates for his gf with a Polaroid of you and him in bed with “Thanks for sharing” written on the back :shifty:

[manker]

That is sad.

I don't want to add what has been put so succinctly by Gurahl but I definitely agree.

You're a lot better than that, I don't think he deserves as much consideration as you're giving him either.

[DanB]

Take the money and buy a nice box of chocolates for his gf with a Polaroid of you and him in bed with “Thanks for sharing” written on the back :shifty:



:lol: :lol:

[BawA]

just run your mini over him, or post his pic here so i can take care of him

[Lilmiss]

post his pic here so i can take care of him

Haha, he is well over 6ft and can pick me up with one hand.
But you know what they say, the bigger they come.... :shifty:


I like Arcadia's Idea, but I would probably end up with an arse kicking. :blushing:

[Virtualbody1234]

You deserve way better than that. Move on and see it as a learning experience.

[zapjb]

Bad karma lilmiss. Get out now. It comes back. Minimize the future damage.

[sArA]

I can't even begin to say how strongly I feel about this situation.

You are so much better than this guy...get rid...maintain your self respect...

He doesn't deserve to walk in your shadow..and...if he has messed his g/f around, then he will mess you around.

Leopards don't change their spots lilmiss...

Find a nice guy or if not, have fun....take no more shit....

just my little bit ;)

[Lilmiss]

if he has messed his g/f around, then he will mess you around.


I figured this. :unsure:
He says if I was his, he wouldn't mess me about.
But he has had so many opportunities to be with me.
Just can't take anymore of his lies.

It's a shame, I really connect with him.
He knows how fragile I can be, and still mis-uses my attention.

[Jon L. Obscene]

I like Arcadia's Idea, but I would probably end up with an arse kicking. :blushing:

:angry: Better fuckin' not :angry:

Having read on and thought about it, this guy is obviously either thick as shit or a complete wanker, anyone who says they wanna be with someone then has sex and offers money! :dry: and fobs you off all the time and wont even take time to be with you is clearly someone who needs to sort their own head out before he fucks your head right up, find the strength to tell him to leave you alone (I love the way we all say this like it's easy) if he comes back tell him you'll take it further if he wont leave.

And while you're at it have him slapped for treating you like shit :dry:

Jonno :cool:

[Virtualbody1234]

He says if I was his, he wouldn't mess me about.
But he has had so many opportunities to be with me.
Just can't take anymore of his lies.

Why do you even listen to him about not messing with you? You already know he lies.

[Busyman]

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:
This is easy....

First, go out with other guys. Don't hold out for this guy at all.

Second, use the current guy for what he gives you. Take the money if he wants you to have it. Enjoy his company while he's with you but....detach yourself from anything further. Look at him as a fuck and money (crass I know). :whistling

Third, don't ask him for anything; not money, not sex, not anything. If asks you for something only do it if it is convenient for you. Don't push anything aside for him. If you have a date kindly tell him, "No, I can't do that tonight." :01:

Either he will come begging you or not, in which in either case, you could give a shit. :dry:

Meanwhile you can benefit. You are not being an ass for being this way. If you meet a nice guy then treat him nice, otherwise what the fuck are you supposed to do.....wallow and sulk like a typical I'm so hurt woman. :crying:

Get lilmiss up and do for lilmiss. ;)

edit: ...oh and in following your instructions.."You're an arse!!!"

[Rick Phlegm]

Guys like that make me sick.

Drop the little puke.

[Lilmiss]

don't ask him for anything; not money, not sex, not anything.


I don't.
The only thing I have ever asked for was his company.
He was really off with me last week, cause I just wanted a hug, and he wanted more. Told me he would be back to see me the next day, and guess what? Im still waiting. I already know what he will use as an excuse; "I thought you were in a mood with me, so I left you alone for a while." :dry:

His g/f knows what he is upto, and apparently he has called her by my name a few times. But she screams and hits him, I refuse to show him how much he riles me up, so maybe thats where Im going wrong. :huh:

I know Im being a silly arse, but sometimes you just need people to remind you. :crying:

[Busyman]

I don't.
The only thing I have ever asked for was his company.
He was really off with me last week, cause I just wanted a hug, and he wanted more. Told me he would be back to see me the next day, and guess what? Im still waiting. I already know what he will use as an excuse; "I thought you were in a mood with me, so I left you alone for a while." :dry:

His g/f knows what he is upto, and apparently he has called her by my name a few times. But she screams and hits him, I refuse to show him how much he riles me up, so maybe thats where Im going wrong. :huh:

I know Im being a silly arse, but sometimes you just need people to remind you. :crying:
Why ask for the hug?

Why worry about whether he comes over the next day?

Why ask why he didn't come over?

[Lilmiss]

Cause I have feelings for the twat.

[Rat Faced]

Lilmiss, your an Arse...

Now that the request is out the way, Bo was telling us you had a cute arse anyway :P

[Lilmiss]

Bo was telling us you had a cute arse anyway :P

Wha? :huh:



Cute in a giant way.

[Robert00000]

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:

The gullibility of women never fail to amaze me. I know from experience that a lot of girls want to believe in something that isnt there. I've had friends who would tell girls they wanted relationships with them but i knew all along that wasnt their true intention.

I'm no saint but even i wouldnt stoop as low as to keep a girl stringing on like this (but a few of my friends are http://chitchatforums.com/forums/images/smilies/smackbottom.gif).

You can do better Lilmiss, just move on and find someone sincere. I'll put you on the waiting list http://chitchatforums.com/forums/images/smilies/naughty.gif

[Jon L. Obscene]

Erm......You like your nuts being kicked Robert? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

[manker]

:lol:

Robert's looking for another interweb raping :flower:

[Robert00000]

Erm......You like your nuts being kicked Robert? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:
I'm more worried she's going to crush me with her lardbutt :ph34r:

[Jon L. Obscene]

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

[DanB]

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:


Harpic? :unsure:

[Robert00000]

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:
would it help my cold? :huh:

[Jon L. Obscene]

Harpic? :unsure:

Well that maybe what he gets off lilmiss, but I was actually talking about "Time for a cool sharp Harp" :01:

Jonno :cool:

[Lilmiss]

Fortunatly, you'll never have that pleasure anyway.
Although, I may ask Jonno to belly flop you. :shifty:





Twat. :D

[Jon L. Obscene]

:01:

Jonno :cool:

[Robert00000]

Well that maybe what he gets off lilmiss, but I was actually talking about "Time for a cool sharp Harp" :01:

Jonno :cool:
that sounds painful :ph34r: , its a good thing i've got to go out now :)

[Lilmiss]

Yes, it is a very good thing you have to go out.




Wahooo!! :01:

[manker]

a good thing i've got to go out now :)
Agreed.

You'd better hurry tho' - Argos closes at 5:30 :unsure:

[Lilmiss]

:lol:


Suppose, I'd better get my stuff ready for work.....again. :unsure:

[DanB]

Agreed.

You'd better hurry tho' - Argos closes at 5:30 :unsure:


Manker knows these things you see :whistling

[manker]

Did you notice how Dan didn't contradict me.

It's cause he's sneaky and if he let on that I was incorrect and they are actually open until 8pm of a November Thursday and 10pm of a December Thursday, then it would give away his status of King Chav of Argos Streetwear.



Edit: D'oh

[Lilmiss]

:D

Self pawnage rawks. :01:


Right, wish me luck at last orders.
I may be hung, for refusing to stay late. :crying:

[DanB]

Good luck Lilmiss :01:

[manker]

All the best, Teh miss :01:

Tell them if they're all out by 11:30 tonight that there will be a stop-on tomorrow (when it's not your shift :01: )

It can't fail :unsure:

[Busyman]

Cause I have feelings for the twat.
Well....don't.

Cry yourself out.....alone.
Think about him when you are in the house by yourself and cry alot.
Get it out.
Think about all the bad shit he does.
Imagine him having lots of sex with his other woman.
Imagine him telling her that he loves then imagine him telling you the same.................after she leaves.

Stop being an...ass (sorry arse is to tame for me).

[bujub22]

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:


i say buy him a playboy vasiline and show him the door ;) there's other ding dongs out there :01:

[100%]

I just saw a "horror" flic called "The HOLE"
'about teenage boarding school kids go into a bunker for 3 days
one of the chics locks the door so she can be with the cool dude
very sick mind

Sorry lilmiss i didnt read a word of any post above apart something about a boy
dont do what she did in the movie

[DanB]

I just saw a "horror" flic called "The HOLE"
'about teenage boarding school kids go into a bunker for 3 days
one of the chics locks the door so she can be with the cool dude
very sick mind

Sorry lilmiss i didnt read a word of any post above apart something about a boy
dont do what she did in the movie


good film

[DarthInsinuate]

good film
yep, it has Keira Knightley boobs in it

[bujub22]

i dl that andnever watched it now im goin too

[DanB]

I watched the japanese version of The Grudge this afternoon, damn it was good :fear:

[bujub22]

I watched the japanese version of The Grudge this afternoon, damn it was good :fear:
i dl that to but dont know what version yet ,watch (saw) last night great film
and i wanted to watch tcm last night so i dl that and got a dvd rip ,watch it and dont u know i go to bed and what on cinamax tcm :frusty:

[DanB]

:lol: That happens to me too, dl it and then 2 days later its on the telly.

I hvent got the saw yet



just to stay on topic, Lilmiss you're an arse :01:

[bujub22]

just to stay on topic, Lilmiss you're an arse :01:[/QUOTE]


:lol: rofl ok lil miss your an arse :lol:

[Biggles]

What people say is often what they either think people want them to say or what they think they should say in a given situation.

However, what people actually do is a closer indication of what they really want.

People may be trapped by circumstances but, by and large, it is usually due to an unwillingness on their own part to change things - no matter how they might moan.

You made a choice and as it was really what you wanted, you took the necessary steps. He has not! You made an honest and honourable decision but for your own dignity it is time to think about what you want next.

If you continue in this relationship it will be because, despite the pain, it is still what you want. Only you can decide if the cost to your heart is greater than the love given to you. If the cost is greater then, for your own sake, you must be brave once again and move on - for, sadly, it is unlikely on what you say, he will.

[Lilmiss]

Yes, I do know what to do.
It's just so hard, especially when he never takes me seriously when I tell him he is hurting me.
I must have sent him packing at least 4 times now, and he keeps returning, an beaking my heart.
I am supposed to be seeing him tomorrow night, providing he turns up. So I shall tell him again, but I dont know if I shall have the determination to cut him out of my life.

When he is with me, he is so caring and gentle, and is a fantastic lover. But none of it means jack, when he returns home to her. He tells me they sleep in different beds and don't have sex anymore, but I can't believe that. Especially when he is babysitting her child, and comes round covered in bruises from the beating she gives him. In fact, he turned up on my doorstep about 1am, not long ago, as she had kicked him out for coming home covered in long hairs.

The sad thing is I am so willing to give him everything, and I know I'm being played. I really piss myself off, sometimes. I can't believe a word that exits his mouth, and I know that is not a decent start for a relationship in the first place, but I cant control how i feel.




Thanks Jpol and Biggles.
Always, the voice of knowledge, delivered with such understanding and care.



But wasn't there supposed to be 3 wise men? :huh:

[Jon L. Obscene]

:01: I'm the third :D

But they wont let me travel with them , I think it's ever since the Frankenstein incident :unsure: I told em my hearing was a bit blocked that day :frusty:

Jonno :cool:

[Lilmiss]

:01: I'm the third

Mmmk. :whistling

No, of course you are, hun. :P







:whistling

[Biggles]

:01: I'm the third :D

But they wont let me travel with them , I think it's ever since the Frankenstein incident :unsure: I told em my hearing was a bit blocked that day :frusty:

Jonno :cool:

And the camel incident - don't forget the camel incident! :dry:

[Jon L. Obscene]

@lilmiss ...Good job I spelt that right init :ph34r: I could have been something else :ermm:

@ Bigs........Yeah man but that was'nt my fault, camel spits at me I fecking deck it :01:
Simple, would'nt let a human do it :dry:

Jonno :cool:

[Lilmiss]

Are you sure it had nothing to do with the camel having more humps than you? :unsure:

[Jon L. Obscene]

Dromedary :01:

Jonno :cool:

[bujub22]

i will say this im no good at given advice about this cuz ive been in to many flukked up relationships to give advice cuz i need advice too ;)