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After the violence of separation he had expected a diminishment of interest and of loathing, on her part. He himself had survived the worst of it and anticipated a quietness. KIND INDIFFERENCE HAD COME TO SEEM AN IMPORTANT BLESSING: But as well as refusing to divorce him, she sent lawyer's letters about the most rivial matters. One lerrter, he recalles, was entirely about a cheese sandwich he hade made for himself when visiting the children. He was ordered to bring his own food in future.
Here's the mail i've now sent.
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Hi Celine. Sorry for delay. Ended up going to pub after work. The battery on my phone was flat or I'd have let you know.
When he says "it has come to this", he refers to what she said about the rain. What happened in the past (remember the remark about psychotherapy and all) has made him hate what he loved in general; he dislikes her, he also dislikes the rain which he used to love too.
"Here we are then ", she said. She is telling her husband that; yes this is the way things are. And, as far as she is concerned, the way things are going to stay. She is purposefully torturing and playing games with him. She will not give him the divorce he wants so much, or let him move on with his life, having petty legal letters sent to antagonise him. This is why she says, "Don't start crying about it.". She, in her bitter state of mind, is gaining perverse pleasure or satisfaction from making him suffer.
"KIND INDIFFERENCE HAD COME TO SEEM AN IMPORTANT BLESSING".
To me, what this is saying is that he just wants to put the relationship behind him. Not necessarily that his wife should be friendly to him, just that she would move on and stop loathing him. By not giving him a divorce, and by having petty solicitors letters sent to him, it is clear that she has not moved on in her own life. She is still bitter, and subsequently will not allow him to move on in his own life.
I hope this helps. I've mailed a friend of mine, who also studied English at uni, to see if he has any further ideas. Will mail you again later. Have to go for now mate, I'm off to get stoned!!!
Lots of love, Mark.