I think I just end up getting trolled on dating sites

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Originally Posted by Squeamous

Lets challenge these great leaping assumptions first of all. Not everybody wants to be polyamorous. When I have been it's usually been in order, in part, to maintain an emotional distance from a person/people I've been involved with. If I choose to be monogamous that's pretty much a green light that I'm ready to get emotionally involved. I find sharing myself about physically keeps me from getting too attached to anybody in particular. I also find sex is waaaaay better when I'm in love, and I'm too much of a romantic to be able to love more than one person at a time. That happened to me once and it fucked with my head and I had to remove myself from the situation. None of the circumstances I enjoy sex in are really satisfied by brief encounters either. My idealised encounter is waking up with a person and spending all day in bed with them, only surfacing for forays to the kitchen. Would I feel excited by a chance encounter? Possibly, and I wouldn't rule that out. But it wouldn't be a way of life, it would be the exception rather than the rule and of course absolute honesty would prevail.

This is the problem I have with the lifestyle you're putting forward. In the end you necessarily end up viewing other people as simply sexual resources, which I disagree with. That landscape of emotional beige I mentioned before is the logical outcome. No great passion, no intellectual or emotional bonding, just the bumping of uglies. Frankly, I'd rather keep respect for other people and just have a wank.

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I think anyone can claim to be monogamous or autoerotic at any given point of time, rather most points of time. The polyamorous existence is short and fleeting, so do its often lengthy temporal cessations qualify dismissal of the label?

I've only had one serious long-term relationship through the expanse of my life, so obviously my experiences don't do well to inform me otherwise. I can't really decide how to proceed with a new long term relationship, one that is initiated in my adulthood, so everything I say is already conjecture. I can claim I am not a brief encounter type of person, I haven't had one of those as it relates to coitus. So in that sense, I do not have sexual resources at my disposal. My privates have to be earned, and I have learned that any other means of obtaining them, i.e. the beverage, is thoroughly unfulfilling. You're arguing against a version of me that doesn't actually exist.

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Originally Posted by Squeamous

You act like a passive bystander in your own life sometimes. Do YOU think it's a good idea that she follows you?

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I am a passive bystander to her life, it's different. I may live with her and share some type of odd companionship with her, but we do carry our own separate lives. I have already told her that if she goes to Beijing or Japan with me, she would have to be prepared with me deciding to leave her. This summary doesn't do the hours of dialogue any justice, but should at least give you something with which to work. She doesn't want to leave me, despite me telling her I will never again love her in that way. I still don't know what to make out of that, but I think it's playing some role into my still resolve.

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Originally Posted by Squeamous

I'm assuming they would be enthusiastic for the dorrers.

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I have no idea what dorrers are.

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Originally Posted by manker

The only thing I'm currently finding more interesting/perplexing is Busy's refusal to post in the lounge.

It's almost as if he considers moviewolrd to be the back of fst's bus.

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That is of course because the back of the bus is always the coolest part of the bus. Then again, I didn't go to elementary school in the 60s.

That's it. I'm not doing any more Rosa Parks inferences if Mary doesn't get them.
It just isn't fair.

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Originally Posted by manker

That's it. I'm not doing any more Rosa Parks inferences if Mary doesn't get them.
It just isn't fair.

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I tried one of those in my black person thread. It was a water fountain reference which went down like mary's missus.

If you're explaining jokes now, then so am I.

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Originally Posted by manker

That's it. I'm not doing any more Rosa Parks inferences if Mary doesn't get them.
It just isn't fair.

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I've already accounted for that when I mentioned the year. :huh:

But now having to place it under some scrutiny, I should have said 50s.

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Originally Posted by chalice

I tried one of those in my black person thread. It was a water fountain reference which went down like mary's missus.

If you're explaining jokes now, then so am I.

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I'm pretty many didn't respond to a lot of the references you made in your post, so the question is, why are you particular about that one?

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Originally Posted by mjmacky

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I tried one of those in my black person thread. It was a water fountain reference which went down like mary's missus.

If you're explaining jokes now, then so am I.

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I'm pretty many didn't respond to a lot of the references you made in your post, so the question is, why are you particular about that one?

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Because it was along the same lines as manker's. It reminded me of it, innit.

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Originally Posted by manker

That's it. I'm not doing any more Rosa Parks inferences if Mary doesn't get them.
It just isn't fair.

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I tried one of those in my black person thread. It was a water fountain reference which went down like mary's missus.

If you're explaining jokes now, then so am I.

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You think our racism is too high-brow for these thickies.
Might have to concentrate on taking the pish out of spastic kids. I'm obviously on shaky ground there, damn my perfect genes, but you can have at it.

I can only hope my son turns out to be a ghey so that I can mock the similarly inflicted with moral impunity.

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Originally Posted by mjmacky

I should have said 50s.

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Originally Posted by manker

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Originally Posted by chalice

I tried one of those in my black person thread. It was a water fountain reference which went down like mary's missus.

If you're explaining jokes now, then so am I.

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You think our racism is too high-brow for these thickies.
Might have to concentrate on taking the pish out of spastic kids. I'm obviously on shaky ground there, damn my perfect genes, but you can have at it.

I can only hope my son turns out to be a ghey so that I can mock the similarly inflicted with moral impunity.

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It's a doirty job, but where there's muck there's brass.