I think I just end up getting trolled on dating sites

I only clarify to watch the dismissive backtracking.

Meaning, I enjoy the show. Before I would have just played along for my own sense of amusement, but I have come to learn how to let you entertain me properly.

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I think anyone can claim to be monogamous or autoerotic at any given point of time, rather most points of time. The polyamorous existence is short and fleeting, so do its often lengthy temporal cessations qualify dismissal of the label?

I've only had one serious long-term relationship through the expanse of my life, so obviously my experiences don't do well to inform me otherwise. I can't really decide how to proceed with a new long term relationship, one that is initiated in my adulthood, so everything I say is already conjecture. I can claim I am not a brief encounter type of person, I haven't had one of those as it relates to coitus. So in that sense, I do not have sexual resources at my disposal. My privates have to be earned, and I have learned that any other means of obtaining them, i.e. the beverage, is thoroughly unfulfilling. You're arguing against a version of me that doesn't actually exist.

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Yes I'm starting to see it's your wife living a polyamorous life, not you.

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I am a passive bystander to her life, it's different. I may live with her and share some type of odd companionship with her, but we do carry our own separate lives. I have already told her that if she goes to Beijing or Japan with me, she would have to be prepared with me deciding to leave her. This summary doesn't do the hours of dialogue any justice, but should at least give you something with which to work. She doesn't want to leave me, despite me telling her I will never again love her in that way. I still don't know what to make out of that, but I think it's playing some role into my still resolve.

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You're a passive bystander to both. You're just passive. I doubt you've ever had any active control over the direction of your own life and as such you're probably not familiar with the concept. It's probably like a foreign language to you. Your wife probably doesn't want to leave you for the same reason you don't want to leave her. You've grown up together and you don't know any other way of living. That was the major reason I didn't leave my ex and let it all blow up in my face. We were together since I was 20 and grew up together. I was a coward.

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I have no idea what dorrers are.

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Dollars in Chinese :ermm:

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Yes I'm starting to see it's your wife living a polyamorous life, not you.

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See what I'm saying now? And you thought I was just being selfish.

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You're a passive bystander to both. You're just passive. I doubt you've ever had any active control over the direction of your own life and as such you're probably not familiar with the concept. It's probably like a foreign language to you. Your wife probably doesn't want to leave you for the same reason you don't want to leave her. You've grown up together and you don't know any other way of living. That was the major reason I didn't leave my ex and let it all blow up in my face. We were together since I was 20 and grew up together. I was a coward.

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I'm not active until I know exactly what I want, you and I had that conversation before. And when I say active, I mean until I make it so.

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Dollars in Chinese :ermm:

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Then you meant dorrars. Either way, the Chinese are offended since they have so few ladyboys, besides that 84 year old ladyboy of course

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See what I'm saying now? And you thought I was just being selfish.

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I still do. Unfettered polyamory can never be anything else. You're just crap at doing it.

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I'm not active until I know exactly what I want, you and I had that conversation before. And when I say active, I mean until I make it so.

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That sent a chill down my spine for some reason :blink:

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I still do. Unfettered polyamory can never be anything else. You're just crap at doing it.

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I'm not active until I know exactly what I want, you and I had that conversation before. And when I say active, I mean until I make it so.

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That sent a chill down my spine for some reason :blink:

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You found yourself at once attracted to his Picardity and repelled by his Dataness. It's a Star Trek thing. Something to do with paradoxes or something.

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You found yourself at once attracted to his Picardity and repelled by his Dataness. It's a Star Trek thing. Something to do with paradoxes or something.

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:smilie4:

It was also a bit sinister and threatening. Like an evil portent for my sex.

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You're just crap at doing it.

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By whose standards, nympho?

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That sent a chill down my spine for some reason :blink:

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You were hoping I didn't suddenly want to plant anything in your lady garden, then you felt a little ease as I don't do the green thumb thing. Then you suddenly remembered that the only reason I wasn't growing my own tobacco was due to lack of space. That's precisely the moment you felt it.

Let's have an FST sweepstake.
If the person you draw rapes someone in the next month, you win a Turkey T-shirt.

You might think that only Oleg, Mary and Dave are going to be valuable tickets to pull from the hat, but ponder for a moment why mbm has so many guns and if livestock counts, then surely Arty is in the mix. Busyman is a dark horse and do you really think barbie is that nice all of the time.

Barbarossa. The clue is in the name, innit.

He's a nazi on a mission to lead a one man gang rape assault upon the lily white virgins of the motherland and lady gardens of Eastern Europe. My deutschmarks are on Untersturmführer Barbs.