What is the f*cking point?

I am so sorry that you are going through more pain after all you have been through one way and another.

I hope that you can find the strength to get him out of your life and get on with doing what makes you and your kids happy.

Listen to your own advice...you are usually spot on.

Good luck.

Stay strong, Nikki. :01:

Get shot of the eejit while you are still young enough to rebuild your life.
G'lucks.

Thanks guys.

Just a really bad few days. I'll get through it, I know I will, just seems pretty bleak right now.

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Originally Posted by Everose

Keep listening to yourself, NikkiD. The important things cannot be taken away from you, unless you allow it.

What is worse than feeling the way you are feeling now? Changing nothing and feeling the same way in 10 years.

I'm pulling for you.

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:) You've summed it up perfectly, that was exactly my thinking a couple of years ago and once I'd done the deed I felt like the biggest weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

Also, once we'd had the 'discussion' we shared a house for almost a year and were better friends than ever. Nobody could believe that'd we'd broken up yet were closer than ever:lol:

:unsure: Course this could be unusual.

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Originally Posted by NikkiD

So I ask.... what is the fucking point?

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There is no point.

The sooner you realize that, the better off you'll be.

It is said the most successful relationships are those where both parties have the slightly guilty feeling that they got the best deal.

Clearly, Nikki, you do not feel you got best deal. Things always seem worse when you are really down but the runes are not great on this one. Only you know what you really want but I suspect it is more than this.

The kids are the point Nikki, sometimes the only point.

What ever huge f*cking mistakes we make, they are the true and constant thing that pulls us through the bad times when it all seems too hard and not worth the struggle. There isn't a choice, you have to go on and make the best of whatever situation for them. I think once you have kids you give up the right to put yourself and personal happiness first. Snatch your bits of happiness where you can.

Put one foot in front of the other and plough on regardless doing what you have to do. Sooner or later you start to notice the sun shining again, and working to make your kids happy will bring happiness back to you. Tenfold.

We are lucky really in that we have places like this to go to, and people to talk to who care, and who make us laugh.

I hope it all gets easier for you soon. :)

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Originally Posted by Biggles

It is said the most successful relationships are those where both parties have the slightly guilty feeling that they got the best deal.

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I like that quote...(ya old fella, drop-in poster, veteran).

It has much profundity. :)

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Originally Posted by AussieSheila

I think once you have kids you give up the right to put yourself and personal happiness first.

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wow im fuckin shocked to see a women right that! :ohmy:

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Originally Posted by bujub22

wow im fuckin shocked to see a women right that! :ohmy:

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It's very true.

I hate when I see a nice looking woman fall over a piece-o- :shit:
(Nikki is rather attractive).

They can pretty much pick what they want and they pick :shit: .

All they have to do is go by the book.