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Well this friend of me has fallen in love with this girl he met on the internet, hes realy crazy about her.
Problem is that this guy allready has a girlfriend and they live togheter.

At this point hes willing to give everything up for that other girl and needs to find a new place to life but thats not so easy to do since hes with his girfriend for a couple of years. He says he never felt so much for anyone before... not even for his girfriend. (this has been going on for a few months now).

They never met in realy life, only on webcam and they chat everyday for hours.

I know there isnt a easy anwer , but whats your opinion? :helpsmile:

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Originally posted by racer II@11 January 2004 - 14:39
Well this friend of me has fallen in love with this girl he met on the internet, hes realy crazy about her.
Problem is that this guy allready has a girlfriend and they live togheter.

At this point hes willing to give everything up for that other girl and needs to find a new place to life but thats not so easy to do since hes with his girfriend for a couple of years. He says he never felt so much for anyone before... not even for his girfriend. (this has been going on for a few months now).

They never met in realy life, only on webcam and they chat everyday for hours.

I know there isnt a easy anwer , but whats your opinion? :helpsmile:

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Got any pics, I'm shallow I make my decisions based on looks.

That you should tell this friend of yours(You?) to meet this other girl before he decides to do anything. A keyboard talking to another keyboard is not a recipe for a happy relationship.

There is no easy option. :(

Who does he like the most? Who does he want to be with?

I could say that relationships built on the internet don't work but then I'd be lying :rolleyes:

I wish him luck :)


edit - he did say they have spoken on webcam stuff so they already know what each other looks like but I get your point BB :o

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Originally posted by bigboab@11 January 2004 - 16:43
That you should tell this friend of yours(You?) to meet this other girl before he decides to do anything. A keyboard talking to another keyboard is not a recipe for a happy relationship.

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The girl doesnt want to meet before he breaks up with his g/f

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Originally posted by racer II+11 January 2004 - 16:45--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (racer II @ 11 January 2004 - 16:45)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-bigboab@11 January 2004 - 16:43
That you should tell this friend of yours(You?) to meet this other girl before he decides to do anything. A keyboard talking to another keyboard is not a recipe for a happy relationship.

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The girl doesnt want to meet before he breaks up with his g/f [/b][/quote]
Why not? As long as they only meet then they are doing anythig wrong.

That last statement has made me suspicious now <_<

What if this girl is taking the mickey out of your friend, what then?

I think he should meet her before he makes any decisions, she could be a bloke in a wig...those webcams don&#39;t give the best of pictures you know. (Well at least mine doesn&#39;t...)

You&#39;re gonna get left with nothing at all :(

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Originally posted by danb@11 January 2004 - 16:44
There is no easy option. :(

Who does he like the most? Who does he want to be with?

I could say that relationships built on the internet don&#39;t work but then I&#39;d be lying :rolleyes:

I wish him luck :)


edit - he did say they have spoken on webcam stuff so they already know what each other looks like but I get your point BB :o

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His feelings say he wants to be with that girl.

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Originally posted by Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 15:47
I think he should meet her before he makes any decisions, she could be a bloke in a wig...those webcams don&#39;t give the best of pictures you know. (Well at least mine doesn&#39;t...)

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Well at least we have something to discuss tonight then Cheese. :)

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Originally posted by Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 16:47
I think he should meet her before he makes any decisions, she could be a bloke in a wig...those webcams don&#39;t give the best of pictures you know. (Well at least mine doesn&#39;t...)

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Is this a confession? :unsure:

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Originally posted by bigboab@11 January 2004 - 16:46
What if this girl is taking the mickey out of you, what then?

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then he will end up all alone

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Originally posted by bigboab+11 January 2004 - 14:48--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (bigboab @ 11 January 2004 - 14:48)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 15:47
I think he should meet her before he makes any decisions, she could be a bloke in a wig...those webcams don&#39;t give the best of pictures you know. (Well at least mine doesn&#39;t...)

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Well at least we have something to discuss tonight then Cheese. :) [/b][/quote]
I&#39;m not wearing a wig :o

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What if this girl is taking the mickey out of you, what then?

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Good point or she could be a communist :ph34r:

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Originally posted by Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 16:47
those webcams don&#39;t give the best of pictures you know. (Well at least mine doesn&#39;t...)

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He he , he says its not about looks. altough shes realy pretty.

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Originally posted by racer II+11 January 2004 - 15:50--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (racer II @ 11 January 2004 - 15:50)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-bigboab@11 January 2004 - 16:46
What if this girl is taking the mickey out of you, what then?

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then he will end up all alone [/b][/quote]
Well then, not knowing the full circumstances it would be hard to form an opinion. What have you advised your friend to do?

Its a lot to risk on a girl he has only spoking to over the internet

Where does this girl live? Is it close by to your friend?

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@11 January 2004 - 16:46
What if this girl is taking the mickey out of you, what then?

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then he will end up all alone

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Well then, not knowing the full circumstances it would be hard to form an opinion. What have you advised your friend to do? [/b][/quote]
Well another problem is that he has the feeling that he and his g/f grew appart.
But maybe thats normal because there togheter for a realy long time.
So i realy couldnt give him an answer. :(

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Originally posted by namzuf9@11 January 2004 - 16:58
Where does this girl live? Is it close by to your friend?

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Whats her phone number? :lol: :P

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Originally posted by namzuf9@11 January 2004 - 16:58
Where does this girl live? Is it close by to your friend?

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About 100kms appart

You could tell you friend to pretend to go to the shops and then elope with his internet gf...that&#39;s probably what happened to my girlfirend :( ;) :lol:

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Originally posted by Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 17:02
You could tell you friend to pretend to go to the shops and then elope with his internet gf...that&#39;s probably what happened to my girlfirend :( ;) :lol:

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:lol: :lol:


Probably ran off with a geezer in a wig :rolleyes:

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Originally posted by danb+11 January 2004 - 15:05--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (danb @ 11 January 2004 - 15:05)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 17:02
You could tell you friend to pretend to go to the shops and then elope with his internet gf...that&#39;s probably what happened to my girlfirend :(&nbsp; ;)&nbsp; :lol:

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:lol: :lol:


Probably ran off with a geezer in a wig :rolleyes: [/b][/quote]
Not the one in my sig?

tell him to stick with his old g/f

internet romances seldomly work

no offence to anyone with a good one :)

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Originally posted by Wizard_Mon1@11 January 2004 - 15:06
tell him to stick with his old g/f

internet romances seldomly work

no offence to anyone with a good one :)

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I&#39;ve has a good few "meaningful" relationships with a few porn sites in my time, does that count?

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Originally posted by Withcheese@11 January 2004 - 17:13

I&#39;ve has a good few "meaningful" relationships with a few porn sites in my time, does that count?

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:lol: :lol: :lol:


I don&#39;t think so :rolleyes:

depends whether your counting tissues used B)

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Originally posted by racer II+11 January 2004 - 17:02--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (racer II @ 11 January 2004 - 17:02)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-namzuf9@11 January 2004 - 16:58
Where does this girl live? Is it close by to your friend?

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About 100kms appart [/b][/quote]
Well couldn&#39;t your friend be economical with the truth and say he&#39;s split up with his current g/f then meet up with the other girl a few times, see how they get on.
But to be honest if he&#39;s even considering leaving his g/f for someone else they cant have that much of a great relationship imo.

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Originally posted by Wizard_Mon1@11 January 2004 - 15:17
depends whether your counting tissues used B)

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Bloody hell, that makes me a virtual stud :lol:

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Originally posted by namzuf9@11 January 2004 - 17:19
But to be honest if he&#39;s even considering leaving his g/f for someone else they cant have that much of a great relationship imo.

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Thats the problem , he doesnt know an answer on that...
He said it feels like hes just very good friends with his g/f, but maybe thats just because there togheter for a long time i thought it was 5 or 6 years.

And hes afraid that if he breaks up with his g/f his true feelings about her will come out.
And he will be sorry , but it will be too late then.

If this guy goes ahead, his current gf will be heartbroken, if she really does love him. To risk all this on someone he&#39;s never met in person is ridiculous. I don&#39;t believe this guy is in love with the Internet girl, but is suffering from lust.

To summerise, it is obvious he sees this as a way of getting out of his relationship and into another (more better) one. You said he feels like his current relationship feels like it&#39;s drifting apart... my advice? Talk. He needs to talk to his current gf to find out why he thinks this is. If he does this first, he may realise he still loves his current gf. Whatever you do, don&#39;t let him split up with his current gf to meet up with &#39;Internet girl&#39;. That comment made me very suspicious and I suspect the day they arrange to meet up, she &#39;has a cold&#39;, or is &#39;washing her hair&#39;.

The grass is always greener on the other side.. This guy is probably all giddy from the excitment that a new girl brings to the table and of course a five or six year relationship can&#39;t still bring that same feeling. Maybe he should try making things more exciting with his current girlfriend&#33; I suppose that would mean not spending HOURS on the computer talking to another girl&#33;&#33;&#33;

Maybe his current girlfriend doesn&#39;t want the realtionship anymore either and their both looking for a way out.. :o

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Originally posted by Kitty@11 January 2004 - 17:37
I suppose that would mean not spending HOURS on the computer talking to another girl&#33;&#33;&#33;

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thats the key to it all if he hadent spent so much time on teh net then his present gf would be happy and they would probably be much more happy.

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Originally posted by Wizard_Mon1+11 January 2004 - 18:39--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Wizard_Mon1 &#064; 11 January 2004 - 18:39)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Kitty@11 January 2004 - 17:37
I suppose that would mean not spending HOURS on the computer talking to another girl&#33;&#33;&#33;

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thats the key to it all if he hadent spent so much time on teh net then his present gf would be happy and they would probably be much more happy. [/b][/quote]
So it&#39;s all his fault if it backfires completely? <_<




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Originally posted by Wizard_Mon1+11 January 2004 - 18:39--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Wizard_Mon1 @ 11 January 2004 - 18:39)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Kitty@11 January 2004 - 17:37
I suppose that would mean not spending HOURS on the computer talking to another girl&#33;&#33;&#33;

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thats the key to it all if he hadent spent so much time on teh net then his present gf would be happy and they would probably be much more happy. [/b][/quote]
Before he started to do that, he and his g/f already "grew appart".
Maybe thats y this happened :blink:

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Originally posted by racer II@11 January 2004 - 18:45

Before he started to do that, he and his g/f already "grew appart".
Maybe thats y this happened :blink:

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Dude, is this you? <_<



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