someone please tell me Im an arse?

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:

I think you know what todo and I think its the right thing.

If he said he wouldhe should have done, not just leave you hanging on the side

Uh huh.
I feel like his dirty ho. :unsure:


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Sorry to say so, but you're being used.

He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?

Tell him to go f*ck himself.

And the money? That's just insulting.

:( Poor lilmiss.

I hate answering stuff like this but you asked for honesty, if this is the same guy you told me about ages ago then it has been a while, but from reading the above I can't see much thinking on his part above his waisteline :(
You's a great girl and can do better than someone who uses you as a shoulder but can't return the favour.
Ultimately it's your choice, no one can make it for you, no one can assure you the grass is greener on the other side, I guess a life changing descision comes to us all at some point, it's a fork in the road, you have to flip a coin and pick a route.
Following your heart is the only way, it may lead to others being hurt, it may lead to you being hurt, but if you don't you will always wonder "What if" , sit down alone for a while, no friends, no internet, no tv or music, just quiet and think about what YOU really want.
You know's us lot will always be here to help :)

Follow your heart, not your head :)

Jonno :cool:

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Originally Posted by Guillaume

Sorry to say so, but you're being used.

He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?

Tell him to go f*ck himself.

And the money? That's just insulting.

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Well said, G.

Dump the loser.

You are worth a real* man.



Yogi


*Truthfull, honest, caring.

Thanks guys.
I have no idea where I stand, but as far as I can tell, Im single.

Thing is, I have told him to piss off so many times, and he just keeps coming back and hurting me.

I know I have to get away.
Too many bad memories here.
Apart form that, Im fed up of getting no respect.


Yeah, Gurahl.
That's what I said.
He offered me £500. :ph34r:

Don't be too hard on yourself lilmiss, Most of us have been in similar situations. I'm not about to call you any names, and you shouldn't call yourself any either. I have to agree with Yogi, walk away and find yourself a real man ;)

Hmmm.....easier said than done.

Thanks again peeps.
/goes for a sulk. :crying:

Most things are :(
You's strong girl tho :01:

You'll find your answer :)

Jonno :cool:

Take the money and buy a nice box of chocolates for his gf with a Polaroid of you and him in bed with “Thanks for sharing” written on the back :shifty:

That is sad.

I don't want to add what has been put so succinctly by Gurahl but I definitely agree.

You're a lot better than that, I don't think he deserves as much consideration as you're giving him either.

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Originally Posted by Arcadia

Take the money and buy a nice box of chocolates for his gf with a Polaroid of you and him in bed with “Thanks for sharing” written on the back :shifty:

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:lol: :lol:

just run your mini over him, or post his pic here so i can take care of him

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Originally Posted by bawa@Klite_user

post his pic here so i can take care of him

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Haha, he is well over 6ft and can pick me up with one hand.
But you know what they say, the bigger they come.... :shifty:


I like Arcadia's Idea, but I would probably end up with an arse kicking. :blushing:

You deserve way better than that. Move on and see it as a learning experience.

Bad karma lilmiss. Get out now. It comes back. Minimize the future damage.

I can't even begin to say how strongly I feel about this situation.

You are so much better than this guy...get rid...maintain your self respect...

He doesn't deserve to walk in your shadow..and...if he has messed his g/f around, then he will mess you around.

Leopards don't change their spots lilmiss...

Find a nice guy or if not, have fun....take no more shit....

just my little bit ;)

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Originally Posted by Sara

if he has messed his g/f around, then he will mess you around.

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I figured this. :unsure:
He says if I was his, he wouldn't mess me about.
But he has had so many opportunities to be with me.
Just can't take anymore of his lies.

It's a shame, I really connect with him.
He knows how fragile I can be, and still mis-uses my attention.

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Originally Posted by lilmiss

I like Arcadia's Idea, but I would probably end up with an arse kicking. :blushing:

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:angry: Better fuckin' not :angry:

Having read on and thought about it, this guy is obviously either thick as shit or a complete wanker, anyone who says they wanna be with someone then has sex and offers money! :dry: and fobs you off all the time and wont even take time to be with you is clearly someone who needs to sort their own head out before he fucks your head right up, find the strength to tell him to leave you alone (I love the way we all say this like it's easy) if he comes back tell him you'll take it further if he wont leave.

And while you're at it have him slapped for treating you like shit :dry:

Jonno :cool:

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He says if I was his, he wouldn't mess me about.
But he has had so many opportunities to be with me.
Just can't take anymore of his lies.

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Why do you even listen to him about not messing with you? You already know he lies.

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Originally Posted by lilmiss

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:

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This is easy....

First, go out with other guys. Don't hold out for this guy at all.

Second, use the current guy for what he gives you. Take the money if he wants you to have it. Enjoy his company while he's with you but....detach yourself from anything further. Look at him as a fuck and money (crass I know). :whistling

Third, don't ask him for anything; not money, not sex, not anything. If asks you for something only do it if it is convenient for you. Don't push anything aside for him. If you have a date kindly tell him, "No, I can't do that tonight." :01:

Either he will come begging you or not, in which in either case, you could give a shit. :dry:

Meanwhile you can benefit. You are not being an ass for being this way. If you meet a nice guy then treat him nice, otherwise what the fuck are you supposed to do.....wallow and sulk like a typical I'm so hurt woman. :crying:

Get lilmiss up and do for lilmiss. ;)

edit: ...oh and in following your instructions.."You're an arse!!!"

Guys like that make me sick.

Drop the little puke.

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Originally Posted by Busyman

don't ask him for anything; not money, not sex, not anything.

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I don't.
The only thing I have ever asked for was his company.
He was really off with me last week, cause I just wanted a hug, and he wanted more. Told me he would be back to see me the next day, and guess what? Im still waiting. I already know what he will use as an excuse; "I thought you were in a mood with me, so I left you alone for a while." :dry:

His g/f knows what he is upto, and apparently he has called her by my name a few times. But she screams and hits him, I refuse to show him how much he riles me up, so maybe thats where Im going wrong. :huh:

I know Im being a silly arse, but sometimes you just need people to remind you. :crying:

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Originally Posted by lilmiss

I don't.
The only thing I have ever asked for was his company.
He was really off with me last week, cause I just wanted a hug, and he wanted more. Told me he would be back to see me the next day, and guess what? Im still waiting. I already know what he will use as an excuse; "I thought you were in a mood with me, so I left you alone for a while." :dry:

His g/f knows what he is upto, and apparently he has called her by my name a few times. But she screams and hits him, I refuse to show him how much he riles me up, so maybe thats where Im going wrong. :huh:

I know Im being a silly arse, but sometimes you just need people to remind you. :crying:

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Why ask for the hug?

Why worry about whether he comes over the next day?

Why ask why he didn't come over?

Cause I have feelings for the twat.

Lilmiss, your an Arse...

Now that the request is out the way, Bo was telling us you had a cute arse anyway :P

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Originally Posted by Rat Faced

Bo was telling us you had a cute arse anyway :P

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Wha? :huh:



Cute in a giant way.

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Originally Posted by lilmiss

Ok, here goes...

I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.

Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.

He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.


I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.

What do I doooo? :crying:

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The gullibility of women never fail to amaze me. I know from experience that a lot of girls want to believe in something that isnt there. I've had friends who would tell girls they wanted relationships with them but i knew all along that wasnt their true intention.

I'm no saint but even i wouldnt stoop as low as to keep a girl stringing on like this (but a few of my friends are http://chitchatforums.com/forums/ima...mackbottom.gif).

You can do better Lilmiss, just move on and find someone sincere. I'll put you on the waiting list http://chitchatforums.com/forums/ima...es/naughty.gif

Erm......You like your nuts being kicked Robert? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

:lol:

Robert's looking for another interweb raping :flower:

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Originally Posted by Jon L. Obscene

Erm......You like your nuts being kicked Robert? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

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I'm more worried she's going to crush me with her lardbutt :ph34r:

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

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Originally Posted by Jon L. Obscene

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

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Harpic? :unsure:

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Originally Posted by Jon L. Obscene

Ooookay :ermm:

Would you like a nice cold glass of Harp? :ph34r:

Jonno :cool:

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would it help my cold? :huh:

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Originally Posted by DanB

Harpic? :unsure:

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Well that maybe what he gets off lilmiss, but I was actually talking about "Time for a cool sharp Harp" :01:

Jonno :cool:

Fortunatly, you'll never have that pleasure anyway.
Although, I may ask Jonno to belly flop you. :shifty:





Twat. :D

:01:

Jonno :cool:

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Originally Posted by Jon L. Obscene

Well that maybe what he gets off lilmiss, but I was actually talking about "Time for a cool sharp Harp" :01:

Jonno :cool:

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that sounds painful :ph34r: , its a good thing i've got to go out now :)

Yes, it is a very good thing you have to go out.




Wahooo!! :01: