someone please tell me Im an arse?
Ok, here goes...
I've been kinda with a bloke for a long, long time.
When we started seeing each other, we both had partners.
He told me if I dumped my b/f of the time, he would give up everything
for me.
I was told he loved me, and he wanted to look after me forever.
Well, I have been single now for over 5 months, and he has made
no effort to leave his g/f, although he has lied to me a few times and said he did.
To add insult, he is constantly offering me money, which I refuse to accept.
Last week, I said I wasn't gonna be screwed around anymore,
he burst into tears saying he was sorry he was hurting me, and all that crap.
The thing is, when he is upset he call's on me, but if I need him, he is always unreachable.
Nothing has changed, except Im older and a lil wiser.
He used to write me poetry, and leave little presents on my pillow.
Now, he just comes round to...ahem... :w00t:
And thats only once a week, at the most.
I know I'm just being strung along and used, but can someone confirm it for me?
That way, I won't feel so bad if I manage to pull tomorrow night.
It's all got to the point, where I am thinking of moving away from everyone I love,
to get my head straight.
What do I doooo? :crying:
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
I think you know what todo and I think its the right thing.
If he said he wouldhe should have done, not just leave you hanging on the side
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Uh huh.
I feel like his dirty ho. :unsure:
:blushing:
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Sorry to say so, but you're being used.
He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?
Tell him to go f*ck himself.
And the money? That's just insulting.
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
:( Poor lilmiss.
I hate answering stuff like this but you asked for honesty, if this is the same guy you told me about ages ago then it has been a while, but from reading the above I can't see much thinking on his part above his waisteline :(
You's a great girl and can do better than someone who uses you as a shoulder but can't return the favour.
Ultimately it's your choice, no one can make it for you, no one can assure you the grass is greener on the other side, I guess a life changing descision comes to us all at some point, it's a fork in the road, you have to flip a coin and pick a route.
Following your heart is the only way, it may lead to others being hurt, it may lead to you being hurt, but if you don't you will always wonder "What if" , sit down alone for a while, no friends, no internet, no tv or music, just quiet and think about what YOU really want.
You know's us lot will always be here to help :)
Follow your heart, not your head :)
Jonno :cool:
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
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Originally Posted by Guillaume
Sorry to say so, but you're being used.
He still with his gf, hasn't kept his word and keeps coming back for s*x?
Tell him to go f*ck himself.
And the money? That's just insulting.
Well said, G.
Dump the loser.
You are worth a real* man.
Yogi
*Truthfull, honest, caring.
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Thanks guys.
I have no idea where I stand, but as far as I can tell, Im single.
Thing is, I have told him to piss off so many times, and he just keeps coming back and hurting me.
I know I have to get away.
Too many bad memories here.
Apart form that, Im fed up of getting no respect.
Yeah, Gurahl.
That's what I said.
He offered me £500. :ph34r:
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Don't be too hard on yourself lilmiss, Most of us have been in similar situations. I'm not about to call you any names, and you shouldn't call yourself any either. I have to agree with Yogi, walk away and find yourself a real man ;)
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Hmmm.....easier said than done.
Thanks again peeps.
/goes for a sulk. :crying:
Re: someone please tell me Im an arse?
Most things are :(
You's strong girl tho :01:
You'll find your answer :)
Jonno :cool: