7 Tips on how to Break Up

just thought someone might need this info:crying:

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1- Make her the first to know
Out of respect for her, never tell your friends you're going to end it before telling her it's over. It's a simple thing women consider sacred. The all too connected grapevine is not the place she should or deserves to be told that you're no longer interested. You could discuss some relationship problems you're having with your buddies, but leave your final decision to break up with her out of it.

Use your judgment to decide which day would be best to break the news to her. If she's very emotional and you think that you'll break her heart, try to do it on a Friday. This will give her the weekend to recover and spend time with friends. But if she's the type to plow through full steam ahead, then perhaps ending it on a Monday is best. This will ensure that her busy workweek will keep her mind off the breakup and you.

Remember that there will be no "perfect time" to end the relationship. The best thing to do is set a random Monday or Friday to break up -- and stick to it.

2- Find a neutral zone
It's not fair to end the relationship at your place, nor should you be forced to see a picture of you and her hugging on her fridge. Try to find a neutral space where both of you would be comfortable to express your feelings, like a park. At least there you can walk and talk, or maybe even find a more secluded spot.

A restaurant, on the other hand, is a bad choice. If she makes a scene, there's no respectful recovery and no quick way out. But fear of embarrassment is never a reason to leave her in the middle of nowhere. No matter how emotional and heated the conversation gets, there's no excuse for risking her safety or yours.

3- End it in person
If you've lost that loving feeling, be courteous and tell her face-to-face. Phone calls and e-mail are fine for small talk, but this is a big issue. It's natural to want as much distance as possible between you and her when you break the bad news, but in this case, fight your instincts and have the decency to say it to her face.


4- Keep it simple
There's no need to put her through the history of your decision to break up. She does deserve an explanation, but save her (and yourself) the long-winded reasons of exactly why and how things went sour. Be clear about the fact that you feel the relationship is at an end, but balance that crystal clear reality with a significant dose of regret.

It's important to let her know that the decision to split up is difficult for you too. By letting this be known, you make a soon to be ex-girlfriend a friend in mutual sorrow. A few words to the wise: don't say you're going to call if you're not going to. Part of keeping it simple also includes ending it smoothly -- be fair to both you and her.

If you're unclear about how you're ending it with her, it could result in a dragged out breakup. Don't break up in stages -- if you want to sever the ties, there's no time like the present.

5- Get her to see your point of view
Who can argue with logic? You're probably not the only one that's been feeling the relationship going downhill. A dose of reality might be just what the doctor ordered to get her to accept what it is you need to say -- and do -- about it. A good way to get her to understand why you and she aren't best suited for one another is through a simple example. But make sure you get her to start the ball rolling.

Ask her if she's been feeling the lag in your relationship. She'll probably have quite a few examples about why things haven't been working out. Letting her talk it through will help her see why you brought the topic up in the first place.

6- Don't change your mind
There's a big reason why you made the decision to confront her with the end of your relationship. She may argue, cry or even "not understand why you're doing this," but be sure and stick to your guns. There's nothing worse than a flip-flop relationship -- you're either in or out. So make sure you have rebuttals for all her potential comebacks.

7- Be ready for tears
Whether she's glad you said something or not, chances are tears will be shed. Ending a relationship can bring intense emotion and she's not about to save you from seeing it all pour out at once. When she does start to cry, be sympathetic but don't be drawn in by an overflow of powerful emotion. Be an emotional rock.

Make sure to have plans set with friends later that day. This will ensure that the breakup process isn't dragged on longer than necessary and that you're not alone if you feel bad about what just happened.

know when to fold 'em
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Ending a relationship is never easy. But having the courage to follow through with your decision will make both you and her happier when the relationship has already passed its "best before" date. Be true to your emotions and do





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Hmm....Intresting. :shifty:

But Paul Simon has "50 ways to leave your lover". :D


Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

yeah but paul simon is small

ha!!!

So am I. :huh:


:crying:

ooops sorry:crying:

but the truth hurts - so im sorry lilmiss...but its over

i have been seeing another Lady for 4 years now without you knowing

anyway small people normally end up ruliing the world - napolean, kylie, tito etc etc

now can ill just grab my stuff before the scratching starts

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Originally Posted by 15%

i have been seeing another Lady

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:crying:

Nooooo.......not you too.
I have that effect on people.

:frusty:

@ lilmiss

Atleast you can praise yourself lucky you're the right size for Tom Cruise :D

(But the guy is a scientologist so.... a fanatic in other words? )

I think Lilmisss has better taste than falling in love with Tom
however if she did i dont know if she would be able to handle the loss of glamour, paprazzi, red carpets and his ego

I think those tips work both ways....so easy to say but never so easy to do though is it :no:

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Originally Posted by 15%

I think Lilmisss has better taste than falling in love with Tom

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The thought hit me, then again I doubt many women would give up the oportunity if it arose.... henche his ego.