I need your advice...

[manker]

He's not sneaking around behind her back

The chap is fully aware that Hippychick knows of the site as her friend had recently pointed it out to them as a couple. He's simply joined it.

Surely you're not insinuating that a grown man needs explicit permission off his partner to join an interweb site. That would be a bit mental in a Glenn Close stylee.

He has not told her that he has joined. If they are in a serious relationship he needs to. There shouldn't be a problem if he's not doing anything wrong!

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

[Mr JP Fugley]

He has not told her that he has joined. If they are in a serious relationship he needs to. There shouldn't be a problem if he's not doing anything wrong!

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

So you're a member at Empornium. Who would have thunk it.

[chrism]

He has not told her that he has joined. If they are in a serious relationship he needs to. There shouldn't be a problem if he's not doing anything wrong!

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

I never said She needs an in-depth manifesto of what he's doing. He's now joined a site that she has already stated to him that she's uncomfortable with. He did it without telling her. Either you're in a relationship or you're not. It's not a one way street.

[manker]

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

I never said She needs an in-depth manifesto of what he's doing. He's now joined a site that she has already stated to him that she's uncomfortable with. He did it without telling her. Either you're in a relationship or you're not. It's not a one way street.

So she is uncomfortable with the site - it's not her cup of tea.

That doesn't mean that HE won't enjoy the site and what it's got to offer.


Btw, you said that it's not a one way street - it certainly seems that way. You're saying that he HAS to do this and he MUST do that if their relationship is to work. Life is hardly ever like that and it's not usually wise to tell a partner what they can and cannot do.

A relationship like this is the biggest part of your life, but if it's the ONLY part of your life, things tend to get boring or frustrating pretty fast and the relationship doesn't last.

People don't like being controlled.

[Santa]

[manker]

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

So you're a member at Empornium. Who would have thunk it.

Hardcore wanker me, mate.

[Barbarossa]

Ack! Well, your instinct tells you that putting a profile up on myspace is advertising, and I have to agree. But advertising for what remains to be seen.

I totally agree if your in a serious relationship my would you join one of these? What do you get out of this?
I'm going to try to wait this out and see what develops if anything. It may be innocent and I am being a freeked out gf. But if he doesnt tell me soon, red flag will go up!

The solution is simple. Sign up pretending to be someone else. Start chatting to your bf but don't tell him who you are, and see how far you get...

[sArA]

I totally agree if your in a serious relationship my would you join one of these? What do you get out of this?
I'm going to try to wait this out and see what develops if anything. It may be innocent and I am being a freeked out gf. But if he doesnt tell me soon, red flag will go up!

The solution is simple. Sign up pretending to be someone else. Start chatting to your bf but don't tell him who you are, and see how far you get...

Reminds me of that Kate Bush song 'Babushka' or whatever it was called.

Bad idea that one, asking for trouble. I think its fine for him to do what he likes, although maybe he should have mentioned it. He might have not got round to it or forgotten, or just doesn't think its important. As Hippychick is on here, she is happy to engage people of both sexes here, and its certainly not a pick up joint (although male dominated which could be problematic for a jealous partner perhaps). I think that if HC is here and its ok, then the BF can also join chatting places, without being made to feel guilty.

[Busyman]

She's his girlfriend, not his parole officer!

The notion that your partner needs an in-depth manifesto of each and every interweb site that you join is ridiculous at best, obsessive at worst.


Scuse me, luv. I've just joined Empornium.com. The reason is because if you're on the blob and don't feel like putting out, I might want a wank, like.

Too much info

I never said She needs an in-depth manifesto of what he's doing. He's now joined a site that she has already stated to him that she's uncomfortable with. He did it without telling her. Either you're in a relationship or you're not. It's not a one way street.

So is the relationship a bust 'cause he didn't tell her.

If it's innocent what then? She would have raised hell over nothing. I say she keep that information to herself and move forward. She doesn't have to say anything.

Quite simple really.

[MagicNakor]

Why should he have to ask permission to join? They were both invited. He joined, she didn't. Big deal.

My partner would go batty if I asked for permission to join all the internet forums I'm on. Really, you've just got to pick your battles.