Am I a Sexist.

[Mr JP Fugley]

I believe that you should hold the door open for anyone and everyone, no matter what sex, age, religion or creed.

Unless you're in a bad mood of course, in which case watching the door slam into someone's face gives you a peverse sense of self-satisfaction

There is an interesting calculation involving attractiveness and how far away the person needs to be from the door before you will stand holding it until they get there.

Obviously if it's a hawt blonde with big bewbs you will stand there for about an hour and a half as she walks towards you. Wee fat wummin, foot and a half.

[MagicNakor]

You should take into account age. Some of those old ladies can be vicious.

[Skweeky]

Back on topic.

I usually feel uncomfortable when someone holds the door open for me, so usually I make sure I'm the first one in the door so I can hold it open for others.

[Mr JP Fugley]

Back on topic.

I usually feel uncomfortable when someone holds the door open for me, so usually I make sure I'm the first one in the door so I can hold it open for others.

What if a chap, middle aged, stood up on say a packed bus and said "Please, have this seat". Would you see that as chivalry or being patronising.

[CrabGirl]

Back on topic.

I usually feel uncomfortable when someone holds the door open for me, so usually I make sure I'm the first one in the door so I can hold it open for others.

What if a chap, middle aged, stood up on say a packed bus and said "Please, have this seat". Would you see that as chivalry or being patronising.

Chivalrous, unless he asked me "When's it due?", then I'd cry.

When I was on crutches just before xmas, I got a bus into work and no one let me have a seat, until a tiny decrepid lil old lady offered me hers. I didn't take it as god knows what would have happened to her if she was standing up when the bus went round a corner, so she poked a man sitting next to her and told him to stand up and let me sit down. He was mortified. I loved her like me own mother at that point.

[Mr JP Fugley]

What if a chap, middle aged, stood up on say a packed bus and said "Please, have this seat". Would you see that as chivalry or being patronising.

Chivalrous, unless he asked me "When's it due?", then I'd cry.

When I was on crutches just before xmas, I got a bus into work and no one let me have a seat, until a tiny decrepid lil old lady offered me hers. I didn't take it as god knows what would have happened to her if she was standing up when the bus went round a corner, so she poked a man sitting next to her and told him to stand up and let me sit down. He was mortified. I loved her like me own mother at that point.

Quality.

I think most people these days aren't consciously ill-mannered. They are just oblivious to other human beings. In days of yore people would be constantly monitoring what was going on around them and subconciously making decisions with regard to proper behaviour. In your crook leg situation every man within seeing distance would have stood up and offered you their seat. It's the way they were brought up. You would not have felt awkward about it because it was the norm.

Nowadays people are very much more insular. Rather than being sensitive to other people a barrier is put up to prevent that sort of stimulii from penetrating their egocentric universe. I'm on the bus, I have a seat, I'm listening to Dido on my iPod. Sorted, the World is a good place .... this morning. The fact that you are a temporary cripple is, quiet frankie, your business.

I don't see it as an improvement in the human condition. Maybe that's just me.

[CrabGirl]

I don't see it as an improvement in the human condition. Maybe that's just me.

It's not just you, I completely agree. I've lost count of the times I've held the door open for someone and had them just stride through and not say thanks, or even smile, and then had them followed by a stream of non-smiling striding people, so I stand there like a muppet resolving never to hold the door open for anyone again.

I will of course, because it's good manners and at least I am aware of that, and being aware and NOT doing it makes you worse than those who don't even consider it as they are caught up in their own self-important lives.

[Mr JP Fugley]

I don't see it as an improvement in the human condition. Maybe that's just me.

It's not just you, I completely agree. I've lost count of the times I've held the door open for someone and had them just stride through and not say thanks

I think you may be being a tad disingenuous there. Were you ever actually counting.

[Mr JP Fugley]

And also, when you say "the door" which door are you actually speaking of.

[CrabGirl]

Whatever door I happen to be holding at the time.

No I was never counting. It's a turn of phrase, not meant to be taken literally.

As you well know.