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    things you're trying to forget about have a tendency of coming up and slapping you in the face when you finally think you're over them?



    Life sucks balls sometimes

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    I couldn't of said it any better, dear!
    Life sucks balls sometimes...indeed!


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    If you go around sucking balls, things are bound to come up and slap you in the face once in a while.
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    Wassup skweeks?
    We know BDs prob.

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    Went through a bit of a rough time a few years ago and thought I'd done the whole accepting and moving on thing.
    Only to realise, that stupid things like smells and sounds still cause me flashbacks and I am no better off than 2 years ago.

    It fucking sucks, that's what it does

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    i asked my therapist the exact same question just last wednesday.

    In my case, there's a case of dealing with it, or just blocking it. I block, and all of it has started to come out.

    Advice he gave me was to talk the past out, bit by bit, realise that (in most cases) it can't hurt you, only me thinking about it and learning from it whatever you can.

    Negative thoughts cause automatic emotions/actions, based on pre-defined self beliefs we have.

    The example he gave me was:

    "rich woman, successful career, great family, happily married. Suddenly, her husband leaves her. She breaks down, and starts thinking "whats wrong with me" "i'm fat" i did sometihng wrong" "i'm useless" "maybe other people think bad of me"

    These negative self-beliefs stem from insecurites/thoughts we had about ourselves in the past. All of her questions, generally, have no basis. She cant blame someone elses actions on herslef (most of the time). She is not him. She's over-generalising/thinking the worst, which is the worst things.

    Stabler people would just think, his lost. Fuck it. it hurts, but just get on with my life.

    Maybe nothing to do with your story, but, helped me understand stuff.

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    Scents are one of the biggest memory triggers.
    Have you tried writing all the shit down and burning the letter,I did that shit and it helped some.

    All spelling mistakes and grammatical errors in my post's are intentional.

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    In fact, I've just written it down now, in an e-mail to that samaritan link Crabgirl posted in some other thread.
    Find it too hard to talk about but I can write about it....

    I tried therapy a few months ago but I don't think I was ready for it then. It wasn't helping me, only made me feel more confused and I couldn't talk about the things I actually wanted to talk about.
    Maybe one day I'll be able to say it all out loud

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skweeky View Post
    In fact, I've just written it down now, in an e-mail to that samaritan link Crabgirl posted in some other thread.
    Find it too hard to talk about but I can write about it....

    I tried therapy a few months ago but I don't think I was ready for it then. It wasn't helping me, only made me feel more confused and I couldn't talk about the things I actually wanted to talk about.
    Maybe one day I'll be able to say it all out loud
    As Ian Anderson once said Life is a Long Song

    if it is too hard to say....sing it.

    Might not make sence but it works.
    Cogito cogito ergo cogito sum


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