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    I don't know what to do


    Stay in Scotland where I've got my life up and running but don't really have that many friends and where, frankly, the opening laws and neds are doing my nut in.


    Move to Belgium and having to start from scratch, find a job for a husband who doesn't speak any Dutch but have all my friends and family there. Plus it would mean gemo would have to leave all his mates


    International marriages are fucking hard to maintain at times




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    move to Belgium via Amsterdam

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    This sounds nuts as I'm saying it in my head. But here goes.

    Pick a 3rd country where you're both fish out of water (strangers).

    Might help you both help each other equally.

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    Move to as decent area of Scotland and work out what cheap sleazyjet flights are available in advance. It takes no time at all to get to Holland and if you book well in advance it is v cheap.

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    Skweeky's Avatar Manker's web totty
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    Yeah but I don't have unlimited holidays to take each year

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    It's a tough one.

    I can't think of any advice that isn't blindingly obvious.

    You've got to do what's best for yours and Mr. Skweeky's future happiness. Maybe Zapjb has the best idea.

    I don't really know. Sorry.

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    Na... the point is that I miss my family and friends, but if we move to Belgium it would be him missing his family and friends.

    No easy solution :shrug:

    Suppose we could live in one country for a few years and then move back and just keep doing that

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    How long have you lived where you are? If it hasn't been that long, give it more time.

    Make new friends. The language barrier for your hubby is a killer.

    I wouldn't recommend moving somewhere totally neutral to you and your husband where you know no one.

    At the very least, in either of your hometowns your/his friends can be his/your friends.

    Moving somewhere brand spanking new would just make both of you miserable (unless you tend to make friends quickly).

    I have this dilemma regarding retirement. I could sell my home up here and move down south and live like the king's boss.

    I won't know anyone though and would have to rely on my great charm and wit to make new friends. I've made good friends with folks I've met on all my vacations that still either visit and talk to to this day.

    If you are an outgoing person I don't see a problem with making new friends.

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    Busyman™'s Avatar Use Logic Or STFU!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Skweeky View Post
    Na... the point is that I miss my family and friends, but if we move to Belgium it would be him missing his family and friends.

    No easy solution :shrug:

    Suppose we could live in one country for a few years and then move back and just keep doing that
    Won't that hurt the steady job doohicky?

    How long do you normally stay in one job?

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