Death by Cancer

[100%]

My mom has spinal, lung and kidney cancer. It is not operatable.
She does not want chemotherapy. She is under a ton of drugs.
She seems her charismatic self. Which makes all the discussions about the funeral absurd. She has chosen for euthanasia. The doctors have accepted. They say a few weeks.

I do not need, sorry to hear about this, i need stories of how the process is.
Do you have any experience in this part of life?
If you wish not to be public, pm me, i will appreciate to read your experience.

Thank you in advance.
Z%

[clocker]

One of my best friends passed from cancer last month.
He choose to forego chemo but the option of euthanasia was not offered (maybe not legal here?).
Although he was reasonably comfortable- read: drugged to the gills- his moments of lucidity were few and he got mean sometimes.
I wish he'd been able to choose a more dignified death.

[SonsOfLiberty]

Yeah Cancer is a genetic trait in our family and I'm only making it worse by smoking....I really need to quite, maybe smoking the Mary Jane will ease my pain when I get it, we all have to die sometime, and some of us will die slow and painful and some of us will die quick and some of us won't even know...

[C-mos]

jmneyui362 , are you sick ?!?

sorry to hear that 100%
a hard moment for your family.
take care.

[devilsadvocate]

Edit.

Going to try to figure out PM instead.

[QPD]

I work as a pneumologist, and I diagnose at least 4 new patients every week with lung cancer , 90% of them beyond any real help.And yes 99% of them are smokers.But I have no experience in euthanasia so,,,i don;t know what to say.

[100%]

Yeah Cancer is a genetic trait in our family and I'm only making it worse by smoking....I really need to quite, maybe smoking the Mary Jane will ease my pain when I get it, we all have to die sometime, and some of us will die slow and painful and some of us will die quick and some of us won't even know...

I will quite smoking,just seeing the pain it causes on everybody else, makes it so selfish in a way. She knew.

One of my best friends passed from cancer last month.
He choose to forego chemo but the option of euthanasia was not offered (maybe not legal here?).
Although he was reasonably comfortable- read: drugged to the gills- his moments of lucidity were few and he got mean sometimes.
I wish he'd been able to choose a more dignified death.

In relation to "drugged to the gills", i have no clue how much she is taking but it is a lot, before she got the pills it was painful to see her, but those pills will only last to a certain level.
Yesterday the tumor took another one of her ribs, they injected some kind of super anesthia to kill the nerve - the angel doctor said the "unecessary pain" needs to be removed. Unecessary pain, beautiful words.
How much drugs can a body take? If a "miracle" happened and she was cured, she would experience extreme cold turkey.

"He got mean sometimes" - that hurts. So far she tries. But she tells us when she needs space.
"Moments of lucidity", so when is life no longer worth it? To make that decision. Your friend went the natural way. My mom has passed the test for euthenasia, she can take do it tomorrow if she wants.
I just spoke to her, she was skyping with family in south africa.
It will not be tomorrow.

jmneyui362 , are you sick ?!?

sorry to hear that 100%
a hard moment for your family.
take care.

My dad cries the most.

Edit.

Going to try to figure out PM instead.

Merci

I work as a pneumologist, and I diagnose at least 4 new patients every week with lung cancer , 90% of them beyond any real help.And yes 99% of them are smokers.But I have no experience in euthanasia so,,,i don;t know what to say.

Yes mom was a heavy smoker. If you are a proffesional. Could you tell me the proceedings as of now? Was my description in first post correct?
She will be able to breath less and less. As i stated the cancer is eating at her ribs. They inject anestethisia in those spots. The doctor said 2/3 weeks. She seems fine when sitting or on bed. It has been 2 weeks since the doctors diagnosis.
My brother asked, why not radiate the lungs, my dad said it will damage the rest.
I also heard of pills in chemo form...
Here i am writting to the web/fst for answers. Will ask the doctors instead, but it is feels good to write anyway.

[j2k4]

Z-

This is a difficult subject for me as well; I lost my bestest favorite brother-in-law several years back, a true prince of a fellow.

He'd dealt with pancreatic cancer for about three-and-a-half years and suffered little effect (he was supremely healthy, no bad habits, no family history, etc.) until it rose up righteous and decided to take him.

I was lucky enough to see him a week before he died (he'd become resigned to the situation just before my visit, and moved quickly to square things emotionally with his children and my sister-in-law); he'd been set up to self-administer his relief, which he did sparingly (tough guy that he was).

The last few days/hours were a series of physical trials as his organs shut down; I called him the day before he died (my sister-in-law held the phone to his ear while he informed me he'd become blind - kidney shut-down, I think) and he was going to have the kids in for one last visit (he was at home, in his own bed) before he went.

Never a cross word from him; he was very strong right 'til the end, which was very quiet.

It sounds as if your Mum has similar fortitude and a strong constitution...do everything you can to match her effort and aid her on her journey.

My most fervent prayers are with her, you, and yours.

[100%]

Last friday we ate for the last time together.
On Saturday at three pm, the doctor would come to put her to rest.
The hour's and seconds before that were, to say the least, intense.

We were all together, she was herself, she did not have one moment of doubt.

She wanted it to end, she was ready, and did not want to experience the erosion. She had seen that hell before.

Just before the doctor injected, she had the consideration to look at her and smile and say "thank you"

Then she said "Ik ben zooo moe".

Her funeral was yesterday.
Hundreds of friends and family.
It was warm, it was necessary, it was good, we all spoke for her.

Mammie it went better than you wanted.

Don't worry, we will take care of Pappie, as promised.

[Fishy2]

That brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts go out to you and your family