
Originally Posted by
manker
Family.
Despite me looking in from the outside and saying objectively what I think is probably for the best, chavis will be offering his errant bro emotional support the very next time he's out. That's the way it is so I can't help but think that more than two but less than four people in this thread are doing it wrong.
Belonging to a group of people is something we all strive for, whether it's trying to get a girlfriend or making an ID on a message board. It's all an extension of something which we have hardwired into us as people. Despite most of us having no materialistic need to have others around us, we desire it. No matter how comfortable we are with our own company, not much time will elapse before we want to talk to someone, to physically touch or be touched by someone or to feel an emotional connection.
With blood relatives, especially siblings and parents and later on in life children, we have the best opportunity to share a bond which will last a lifetime. People who will absolutely drop what they're doing and help you in any situation without a moment's hesitation. Your back is well and truly got.
In a nuclear family, you're the most important people in each other's lives, this can't be duplicated with a best friend and often not with a partner, certainly not for a good many years, because they have their own siblings and parents. So why cast it aside when it's definitely the best chance you'll ever have of being a part of a solidly defined and almost unbreakable group. Nurture it instead. You'll only spend the rest of your life trying to fill the void with an inferior substitute.
Read some Vonnegut, especially early Vonnegut but any Vonnegut really. This theme runs through his books.
And he's dead right.
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