
Originally Posted by
Darth Rings
Squeams has spoken (in the public eye at least) with nothing but respect for who Reject is. She didn't shoot down his claims that he's very honest, nor did she discredit his misunderstanding of people as a negative attribute, and she herself acknowledges he's a pacifist. Even though he posted a death threat in satire, I don't think anyone took it seriously, not in the least the parties involved, especially.
If everyone wants to get their panties up in a bunch, go for it. If everyone wants to be the authority on Reject's mental health, you're all privy to that honour. But please, don't make my equally valid opinion sound crazy simply because you disagree with it.
The sad truth is Reject has been banned or flounced from every single message board that I know of that he has frequented to any regular degree. The pattern is usually thus:
1) Reject is nice and friendly and everybody takes to him
2) Reject gets his knickers in a twist over some issue he has misunderstood
3) Reject goes completely OTT and alienates everyone
4) Self pity kicks in followed by obsessive demands for attention while he sorts through all the conflicting emotions in his head.
5) When everybody declines to enter into the dark, repetitive world of navel gazing he has created he becomes aggressive
6) Accuses people of lying/libelling him. At this stage the following may happen:
a) He may threaten board owners with some form of legal action, a form of attention seeking they can't ignore. If they're large enough scale or robust enough to call his bluff on this he will probably flounce from the board in a waft of acrimony or be banned
b) He will go straight to flouncing
7) He will attempt to rejoin the board under pseudonyms or as himself
8) Cycle repeats ad nauseum
To be honest I just got tired of his shit. The good times became drastically outweighed by the bad. I felt like I was an unpaid psychiatrist. His complete inability to have functional interpersonal relationships became my responsibility to help him through, and eventually when I failed to deliver the relationship I knew he wanted every conversation started with recriminations and accusations. I persevered with him for 5 years, but eventually, as the intervals between his petit mals became shorter he just emotionally drained me. I admitted defeat. I was the last person in his life to do so, and I was loathe to because I hate to give up on people, but the shutters just came down and there was nothing I could do about it.
I knew that the only way I could remove him from my life was to starve him of attention. To cut him off completely. To not let him intimidate me like he had everybody else we knew and to stay strong and stand up to him.
Bottom line is, he entertains everyone. This car crash entertains everyone. That's the only reason he's still here. You all have it in your power to ignore him, or at the very least his diatribes. Every escalation of his behaviour in real life has been a result of attention he's been given on this board.
Really, we don't need to involve the mods in this. If you want to help, ignore the poor behaviour, reward the good. It's not difficult.
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