
Originally Posted by
Artemis
In highlighting the recent silliness you have come across you have also managed to highlight some of your own personal silliness, which is the point Squeamous is trying to make. The fact that you do not see it as silly, is down to your own self involvement, but the quintessential nub of what others are trying to say to you is how can you move on if you are still living in the past?
If it is simply the convenience of having the relationship there, even though it has become loveless, like not getting rid of the old pair of slippers even though one of the toes peeps out because you've had them for so long, then from my own point of view and probably others out there, the term emotional cowardice fits. By this I mean that if the relationship has degenerated to the point where it is truly loveless and where you find amusement in friends discomfiture at sneaking around while trying to fuck her, then why on earth are you still in the relationship/marriage/living arrangement/fucked up cohabitation?
There can be no 'new' relationship with the mouldering corpse of the old one still in the air unless you are almost completely devoid of emotion, which would preclude any real intimacy anyway. So this is where the term emotional cowardice is being applied, simply because Squeamous (and myself ) believe based on what you have posted (with the obvious caveat that you may yet again simply be trolling), that you need to sever the gangrenous limb that is your marriage if you are to move forward and have a healthy and happy beginning to another relationship, and that you are being an emotional coward in not doing so, but in clinging to the tattered remains.
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