
Originally Posted by
Squeamous
Lets challenge these great leaping assumptions first of all. Not everybody wants to be polyamorous. When I have been it's usually been in order, in part, to maintain an emotional distance from a person/people I've been involved with. If I choose to be monogamous that's pretty much a green light that I'm ready to get emotionally involved. I find sharing myself about physically keeps me from getting too attached to anybody in particular. I also find sex is waaaaay better when I'm in love, and I'm too much of a romantic to be able to love more than one person at a time. That happened to me once and it fucked with my head and I had to remove myself from the situation. None of the circumstances I enjoy sex in are really satisfied by brief encounters either. My idealised encounter is waking up with a person and spending all day in bed with them, only surfacing for forays to the kitchen. Would I feel excited by a chance encounter? Possibly, and I wouldn't rule that out. But it wouldn't be a way of life, it would be the exception rather than the rule and of course absolute honesty would prevail.
This is the problem I have with the lifestyle you're putting forward. In the end you necessarily end up viewing other people as simply sexual resources, which I disagree with. That landscape of emotional beige I mentioned before is the logical outcome. No great passion, no intellectual or emotional bonding, just the bumping of uglies. Frankly, I'd rather keep respect for other people and just have a wank.
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