Depression

[Z-95]

Hang in there man! It'll get better!! Don't give in!! This hits home for me as a friend of mine just killed himself Sunday night, Feb. 29. He was well liked, had many friends, and never seemed to have a problem. However, his parents were divorced, he lived with his mom, and she would leave him alone for weeks. He wrote in his palm pilot "I'm sorry, I'm sorry... I can't I can't..." right before he hung himself off his stairs. This shook up the whole school, and many of his closest friends are still broken up. Please, don't do this to yourself and others. Suicide seems like an easy way out, but it causes so much pain.


This is for you man
Doug Cerda
1986-2004

[corvair41]

Originally posted by HeavyMetalParkingLot@4 March 2004 - 23:24
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some people are depressed some people arnn't.
some people feel like killing themseves, some people don't.
some people really care about other people when they are crying out for help. some people like you, don't! Some People.

[Wolfmight]

If you kill yourself, you are commiting a mass mental murder by hurting atleast 10-20 others. (trust me, 10-20 OTHERS ATLEAST)

I admit i get deppressed sometimes, even when i have a girlfriend and all, but i ushally talk things out. Communication "really" makes you feel better (allmost like sex). So try to find someone you love or are friends with and talk about it. They will listen if they are a true friend. Find some good empty time. Sometimes the opposite sex may understand better, since guys cant really talk personal to other guy friends, so you could also try you parents.

[oldmancan]

Petri,

It's been a long time since I've seen you post. Perhaps you haven't been as active or we just view different sub-forums. I don't chat at all so I haven't had the pleasure of getting to "know" you better that way. I do know that you are loved. It's rather obvious. This forum and your friends here are part of real life, even if we joke about it not being so.

I got very concerned when I first read RF's opening post. I didn't identify you by the post, but it worried me that someone here was so close to suicide that another felt the urge to broach the subject. This is a community and you are part of it. You and I may not be "neighbours" but we are still part of a group.

I will tell you that I have alot of emotional baggage as a result of suicide attempts. And those were just attempts. He has survived.

What hurts so deeply is that someone who I loved with all my heart felt so bad that the only answer seemed to be suicide. Further that he couldn't confide in anyone to communicate his pain. I thought his life was great. It wasn't lifestyles of the rich and famous but I thought he had what he needed and most of what he wanted. He was handsome, smart, physically healthy.

Turns out he doesn't connect well with people, he is very lonely. He doen't process social cues because he is so busy thinking his own thoughts that he doesn't pick up body language and verbal connotations. He became isolated and withdrawn when he changed elementary schools. He never made new friends. Things went downhill drastically and fast when he went to high school.

Life will never be easy for him. But I hope it will be rewarding.

I hope the same for you, Petri. Please continue to seek professional assistance.

All the Best,

Craig

[HeavyMetalParkingLot]

Originally posted by Lamsey+5 March 2004 - 02:33--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Lamsey &#064; 5 March 2004 - 02:33)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>

Originally posted by Alex H@5 March 2004 - 00:43
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@4 March 2004 - 23:24
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Shut the fuck up arsehole. If you don&#39;t want to try to help the guy with a few kind words and some advise, piss off. No one is forcing you to post here.

It&#39;s ok mate, he&#39;s got a history for this kind of thing. Once a troll, always a troll. He&#39;s having a wee bit of a tantrum just now because I made the mistake of ribbing him for being an "amoral shithead". My bad, sorry about that. [/b][/quote]
Well, Lamsey, I am glad to see that I stir your emotions enough to still have this affect on you ALMOST a year later. I myself have apologized to you on multiple times, and have moved on like a adult, you, on the other hand have decided to dwell on it, and bring it up over and over. Now, I think would be a very good time to prove you are more than a little kid, and get over it and move on.


P.S. And to you others how berated me for my post, I am sorry, but this is how I feel on the matter having gone thru suicides on more than a few occasions. I can have no pity whatsoever on anyone, and I mean anyone who is willing to put friends and family thru what they go thru as aftereffects.

[dlingeverything]

Originally posted by HeavyMetalParkingLot+6 March 2004 - 09:17--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (HeavyMetalParkingLot @ 6 March 2004 - 09:17)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>

Originally posted by Lamsey@5 March 2004 - 02:33

Originally posted by Alex H@5 March 2004 - 00:43
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@4 March 2004 - 23:24
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Shut the fuck up arsehole. If you don&#39;t want to try to help the guy with a few kind words and some advise, piss off. No one is forcing you to post here.

It&#39;s ok mate, he&#39;s got a history for this kind of thing. Once a troll, always a troll. He&#39;s having a wee bit of a tantrum just now because I made the mistake of ribbing him for being an "amoral shithead". My bad, sorry about that.

Well, Lamsey, I am glad to see that I stir your emotions enough to still have this affect on you ALMOST a year later. I myself have apologized to you on multiple times, and have moved on like a adult, you, on the other hand have decided to dwell on it, and bring it up over and over. Now, I think would be a very good time to prove you are more than a little kid, and get over it and move on.


P.S. And to you others how berated me for my post, I am sorry, but this is how I feel on the matter having gone thru suicides on more than a few occasions. I can have no pity whatsoever on anyone, and I mean anyone who is willing to put friends and family thru what they go thru as aftereffects. [/b][/quote]
I am sure you can sort this out through PMs so lets get back on topic:

I&#39;m not sure if you have a complete understanding of what is going on here. You have experienced it, but only from a third person persepective. You do not understand the kind of pain or struggles that the person who is considering suicide is going through to drive them to do such a thing.

I&#39;m quite sure this is not:
"I feel sad and everyone is mean so i am going to kill myself"

I can only guess that these phobias are like a wound that will not heal or go away.

Myself, I think that life too important and valuable to give up through suicide. However, I can understand how a Phobia or other condition could distract a person from knowing this.

[Wolfmight]

Life is about achieveing different types of pleasure.

Seriously, Some examples that I live up to are:

Wonders of the World
Breath Taking Places to live such as next to a huge waterfall on a steamy tropic isle
Sex and Massage
New foods
Computer Enhancements
Movies
Music
Games
Building an Ultimate Creation
Becomeing worldfamous
Inventing something that changes everyone

there&#39;s soo much stuff to enjoy and feeling out in the world.

[Evil Gemini]

I have thought about it alot but believe me, when my sister died, and i could see how upset my family was, i could never put them in that kind of pain again.


HeavyMetalParkingLot

P.S. And to you others how berated me for my post, I am sorry, but this is how I feel on the matter having gone thru suicides on more than a few occasions. I can have no pity whatsoever on anyone, and I mean anyone who is willing to put friends and family thru what they go thru as aftereffects.

I dont know what it is you said, but it must have been pretty bad for it to be removed.

When you were in that state of mind where you wanted to kill your self, would you have liked someone to make you feel even worse ?

[j2k4]

Petri-

Hope you&#39;re hanging in there; please let us know?

[hobbes]

bump

Petri- dish out the info.