Leonidas,
Maybe the situation leads you to believe you can, but I honestly don't believe it's possible. Life is not like the movies. If you love her then you want her to love you. That is something you have no control over. You may be able to convince her to go out with you again, but be prepared to get hurt. If you honestly think that she would be happy if she gave you a chance, then give it time. By time I don't mean a week, or a month, I mean at least a year, probably more. This gives her time to forget about whatever broke you two up in the first place and remember everything she liked in the relationship. Try to stay friends. If you love her, than that should be better than nothing. It will be hard. In the mean time, move on. Believe me, I had my heart broke under the worst of circumstances and things aren't going as well as I would like, but I know that If I had fought as hard as I wanted too it would have only made things worse.
When you start winning back a loved one it can turn into an 'on again'/'off again' relationship. They are deadly. I've never been in one, but I've seen them many times. I honestly can't say that I've seen them ending in failure, but they are still young. They may last for a long time, but never seem to go anywhere either.
In my case, If we do end up together again someday, I want it to last. I don't want us working through our old relationship immediatly into our new relationship. My situation is this, we started dating senior year, we were engaged, we moved in together. Things were never 'bad' in our relationship. We didn't fight all the time. The idea of breaking up scared us both. In fact, her mom said after we had been engaged for about 6 months, "It's not like you are really going to end up together." OUCH! I can't say our entire breakup was because of that, but It certainly didn't help....anyhoo....In the end, she wanted to experience more before she ever considered settling down and that was that. Whatever her reasons are for breaking up with you, you must accept them. If it involves you changing and you know it will make you a better person, then go for it. Just don't try to convince her of it. It's easy to change for a short period of time, it's much harder to keep those changes. If the change is really enough to get her back, she'll notice and she should realize the change wasn't to impress her, it was to improve yourself.
Well, It's hard giving advice without the whole (or any) of the sitution. I'm just basing this on what I'm going through, and I am curious of what you think or if it relates. (This goes for anyone really...do you think I have the right frame of though here? I guess I'm giving advice to get advice...
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EDIT:
Love is based on how you feel when you are together, not on one grand memory. That memory fades and how she felt while it happened fades with it. (that's IF she responds positively) Reality will come back into focus. It's the reality of the situation you look to change.
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